Instead of creating a groundbreaking reality, the thinkers of the program went exactly on the concept of the illusion of abundance that we have all been practicing for so long. • Opinion
Illustrate the illusion of abundance.
New love women
Any guy or girl who has chosen to download a dating app in recent years will be able to identify with a sense of abundance flipping through potential matches.
From the very first moments, she feels an endless supply of the most decent pairings.
We all felt the ease with which the finger is raised on the smartphone screen, as if we were conducting a choir that all plays the romantic couple future we long for.
Here is a guy with blue eyes laughing, noted that he is 1.84 (it is known that height is an almost exclusive parameter for finding a successful relationship) - right.
Next to him is too brown, left.
After that he does not pay attention to the letters ETAN - left. Wow, medical student with a melting smile, strong right!
It does not matter at all if we receive an indication of an exciting match immediately after the sweep, the main thing here is to examine, imagine in an average of 0.7 seconds how he will kneel next to the sign "Marry me" at sunset, or sit our daughter on his shoulders on the way to the garden on Saturday afternoon .
And what happens right after the match?
We will move on, move on to imagine how the next profile becomes the father of our future children or is led left into the abyss of oblivion of the current Torah app.
Into all of this landed the reality show New Love (Network), four other horribly generic girls who completely cross the screen and also provide quite a bit of drama and action.
The concept is this: each one lives in a small apartment, and at the beginning of the program each was given the choice between two neat and handsome-looking guys.
The chosen lucky one gets to spend 72 hours with the generic in the small apartment, after which she will be able to choose whether to continue with it for another 72 hours or break up and switch to choosing between the next two in line.
Instead of creating a groundbreaking reality, the thinkers of the program went exactly on the concept of the illusion of abundance that we have all been practicing for years now, the fear of missing out (FOMO) resolutely gnaws at every option.
Why should I choose?
For what reason should one settle for one if in the next right sweep the mast match would be more appropriate, more handsome, more educated, more romantic?
Build a plan There are not too many choices.
Between giving a real chance for a new love or feeling that tickle at the fingertips sliding left on a screen, they are basically telling him "listen, dude, it's not you, it's the illusion. It's the fear of missing someone who will be 'more'" - they no doubt choose to move on And check how the next Mr. Perfect will look and behave.
As the years go by, we hold in hand dozens, hundreds, even thousands of matches with potential mates - but with a hand on heart, do we give a real chance to a relationship?
Do we, in all honesty, allow a real relationship to develop from a correspondence in a dating app, which is usually more like a job interview rather than a real and complete desire to understand who is on the other side of the screen?
And perhaps the question is whether there is better in the next slide to the right is what makes us all continue to live in the illusion of plenty of couple possibilities?
And maybe, just maybe, if we let go of the fear of missing out, we will finally stop really missing out and find the right one for us;
Without leaving an opening of thought about the next perfect mushy match, which may exist only between the fingers but causes our true relationship to slip between us the exact same fingers.