The religious author said that he had been in a relationship with a man in the past • He came out strongly against the LGBT community: "The mentality of a cult" • Also attacked the religious society: "Absolute lack of marriage"
Daniel Zamir
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Sharban Lupo
Daniel Zamir, one of the most famous jazz producers and musicians in Israel, who wears a kippah and maintains a religious lifestyle, revealed in a moving confession in the Shabbat newsletter "Olam Katan", which is published in synagogues on Friday, that he is bisexual and has a relationship with a man.
Along with the explanation that he lives in peace with his sexual orientation, he sharply attacks the LGBT community and says explicitly: “Homosexuality is one hundred percent psychological.
If you are also attracted to women, you will have no problem being married and bringing human beings into the world who will be in your and your wife's defensive fabric. "
"My parents, my rabbi and everyone who knows the story have tried in the past to stop me from taking this step, but no one understands what my soul is going through," he says in an interview with Roi Avrahami and editor of the Yosef Russo newsletter.
"I'm not ashamed of my tendency nor proud of it, and it's for the same reason: I never chose it. I did not want it, I did nothing to get it, and if I could choose, I would get rid of it. It's like telling a kidney patient to hide kidney disease. "I came today to shout the alternative. I was deep in that world, and as someone who is attracted to both sexes, I completely choose to live with a woman," he says, noting that this is a difficult interview in his life.
Zamir says that he was exposed to homosexuality as a child and when he entered Buddhism, before being exposed to the world of Judaism.
In 2008 he married his ex-wife and testified "when I was married same-sex attraction was no problem. I had no need or longing for men or women other than my wife."
After six years, his marriage ran aground and the two divorced.
The couple has two children.
"There is no connection between my divorce and my sexual orientation," he claims.
Two years ago, he shares, he met his ex-partner for two years, but the period after that he describes as a shaky experience.
"On the one hand I loved him very much as a person, and on the other hand I experienced severe anxieties, confusion, drifting."
He said he read in the Shabbat bulletin "Little World," in which he is interviewed, wrote about people who struggled with same-sex attraction and started a family, and that was the last straw that led to a breakup with his partner.
"I realized enough, I do not want it. I myself do not want it. Not because of fear of hell or the slingshot. Because it is not good for me. I do not get along with the set of values that I, Daniel Zamir, want to live by ... I do not want to waste "One more moment of my life in the games I think of Dad and Dad. No thanks. Whoever wants to marry a man, go for it, bro, enjoy. But I do not want to live like this."
"The thing is, we live in a mental troll, so those things I say are 'homophobia,'" he says, but adds that his goal is to offer an alternative way of life.
"If you can find yourself affecting women, you will know that you do not have to subject yourself to the LGBT narrative that says you'm sure gay.
Attraction for men does not necessarily contradict attraction for women. "
"After all this journey I am here to say without shame: Homosexuality is one hundred percent psychological, there is no gene for it. There is no gene for deterrence from women," says Zamir, noting that he is bisexual.
He claims that many in the LGBT community deny being able to be with women in the past.
"The headline 'Daniel Zamir Bisexual who offers men like him to be with women' is a headline that will not be broadcast in the mainstream media. To say that I prefer a woman is worth stoning in my opinion in the Ten Commandments of the LGBT.
"We live in a historical age where not only has homosexuality been accepted as standard, but any ideological, philosophical or value-based alternative to the LGBT conception is absolutely forbidden.
"The prevailing doctrine is that a man who is attracted to men and wants to live with women does manipulation, conversion. But it is just the opposite: a man who is married to a man and speaks to him in a female language and plays with him in father and mother is the purpose of conversion," Zamir stressed.
At the same time he clarifies that he is not in favor of conversion therapies.
"I do not recommend at all but in my life I would not forbid a practice in psychology just because it does not seem to me."
Zamir does not spare criticism from the religious society from which he comes.
"In religious society this is the scariest thing there is. Unfortunately there is a complete lack of marriage. You can see a killer coming out of prison and being accepted into society with open arms, but gay is a fear of terror."
"One must love the people, no matter what they do and what sin you think they are doing or not. Not your business. One must stop giving them the feeling that they are a failure of society, because from the place of rejection, stress, civil war and guilt nothing good can grow. "And we must remember: Homosexuality is not a choice, it is a tendency. Therefore, God forbid, one should not look at me and anyone like that. Religious society can make its voice heard and its worldview, but it must not fight people and make them feel 'assigned'."