"I don't know how long I have left"

Daniela Schaurer from Reichenkirchen is seriously ill.

The worst thing for her is the uncertainty, she says.

The readers' aid organization Licht in die Herzen supports the family.

Reichenkirchen -

“We wanted to get married in church on our 25th wedding anniversary.

I've always wanted that, ”says Daniela Schaurer, who describes herself as“ very religious ”.

She and her husband Björn said yes 20 years ago in a civil registry office.

"I always promised her that," says the 41-year-old, "but I'm not a dancer," he explains with a wink why the big wedding has been postponed again and again.

But the 42-year-old doesn't know whether her greatest wish will come true.

She has had lung cancer since 2018.

"When I was diagnosed on August 1, 2018, it was of course a huge shock for us at first," recalls the mother of three.

“Ironically, on International Lung Cancer Day,” her husband adds sarcastically.

Daniela Schaurer is a non-small cell adenocarcinoma with mutation.

This type of cancer is more common in Asian countries, especially among young people.

“'You don't fit into the pattern for lung cancer, Ms. Schaurer'”, we were told in the clinic, but unfortunately the cancer didn't know that, ”says Björn Schaurer sadly.

Glimmer of hope: therapy with tablets

Daniela Schaurer was operated on on August 2, 2018, and metastases had formed in the thoracic vertebrae.

These were stiffened with 30 centimeter long rods.

“My wife's back was opened completely,” says her husband.

Metastases had also already formed in the head, they had to be irradiated and operated twice.

Then a glimmer of hope: therapy with tablets.

“That gave me confidence,” says the patient.

But it only took a year for the cancer to report back - with new metastases in the head, then in the lumbar vertebra.

And the primary tumor had grown again.

Irradiation again.

A stroke followed shortly thereafter with epileptic signs.

“My wife came to my home office and asked a question with a lot of twisted words,” recalls Björn Schaurer, who works as a legal clerk at the Erding District Court.

Sons cannot come home

He immediately drove her to the hospital on the right of the Isar in Munich.

“I was there for nine days, nobody was allowed to visit me, that was bad,” says the cancer patient.

"Yes, Corona doesn't necessarily make the whole thing easier," says Björn Schaurer.

His wife is considered a high-risk patient, which means for him and the three children that they have to protect themselves particularly.

“I hardly ever go out,” says the family man.

“And if I do, I'll wrap myself up and put on disposable gloves when I'm shopping.

Sometimes people look at me strangely. "

The eldest son Eric is training to be a law enforcement officer in Munich.

“The diagnosis hit him pretty hard back then, he slipped mentally.

Thank God he has recovered, ”says his stepfather.

To protect his mother, the 24-year-old stays with his girlfriend in Munich most of the time.

It's not easy for 18-year-old Phillip either.

He is currently completing vocational training as a nurse at the Erding Clinic.

“He has so many contacts there.

That's why he stays with his girlfriend a lot. "

"She's doing badly, but she's worried about us"

Daniela Schaurer would love to just hug her sons, but all she has left is video telephony during the Corona period.

Because of the risk of infection, the 42-year-old cannot even see her family when she is in the hospital for oncology.

Which Björn Schaurer fully understands.

“You have to protect all patients,” he says.

Daughter Emilia still lives at home.

The 15-year-old attends the 10th grade of the girls' secondary school Heilig Blut and is a great support for her mother.

He, in turn, is sorry "that Emilia now has to grow up so quickly that her whole childhood is lost".

“That's typically my wife: she's doing badly, but she's worried about us,” says Björn Schaurer.

He too has to fight.

“I didn't want to admit it for a long time, but at some point I couldn't anymore.

I used to be a runner, trained for different competitions.

Suddenly I had no drive for anything.

I woke up in the night with fears, asked myself how am I supposed to manage all this without my wife?

Can I pay the rent for our house?

Daniela worked full time as a nanny.

Now she gets a disability pension. "

A great help: Palliative Team Erding

The 41-year-old is now also receiving medical treatment.

The Erding palliative care team is also of great help.

"Ms. Huber and Dr.

Schmidkonz exude such calm.

We are very happy that we have them. "

The worst thing for Daniela Schaurer is the uncertainty.

“I have no idea how long I have left and how I'll end up.” She knows what she's talking about, because seven years ago she lost her mother - also to cancer.

She wants to be at home as long as possible, even with her husband in the shared bed.

That is why Daniela Schaurer would like an electronic slatted frame with a matching mattress for her bed.

That would cost around 2000 euros.

And an oxygen device with rechargeable batteries would make your life easier and more mobile.

"The health insurance only pays for a heavy device that my wife can no longer wear."

"We still had so many plans"

The cancer patient is currently in the middle of chemo, which makes her very weak.

She struggles with side effects like pneumonia and pleural effusion.

“Daniela is only skin and bones,” says her husband, “but for me she remains the most beautiful.

She is the love of my life. "

Despite everything, there are also beautiful moments in the life of the Schaurers: These included the free photo shoot shortly after the diagnosis at the non-profit association Nana - Recover Your Smile.

People suffering from cancer and family members are made up by professionals, and the sick are allowed to use clothes from a pool.

Daniela Schaurer chose a white floor-length dress with rhinestones.

"I've never wore such a wonderful dress, I wanted to save it for my church wedding."

“We still had so many plans,” says her husband sadly.

But now the Schaurers hope that the chemotherapy will work and that they can celebrate Christmas together.

“That should be possible with rapid tests at the airport.

That costs a lot of money again, but it's worth it to me, "says the 42-year-old, because:" Who knows how many Christmases I have left. "

Light in the heart

The readers' aid organization of Erdinger / Dorfener Anzeiger supports citizens in the district who are in need through no fault of their own, such as the Schaurer family.

Donations can be made to the account (number 17 111) at Sparkasse Erding.

Account holder: Zeitungsverlag Oberbayern.

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Donation receipts can be issued on request.

Please note this with your address on the transfer slip.

The names of the donors will be published.

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