"Many men fail to cope with their fear of surrendering and feeling" Israel today

She's looking for a life partner ("and I also decided to freeze eggs"), thinks women's weight gain is a "depressing discourse", and an avid lover of mental conversations ("I'm digging") • Shani Klein has learned to make decisions and be patient with her mistakes

• "The corona made me want to go on a rampage, to get to the wildest party in town."

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  Eric Sultan

When was the last time you took a selfie?

"Maybe last week? I'm not from the 'cellophane', and if I do this selfie with people I want to hang out with for a moment, especially my nephews, or if I did beautiful makeup or hairstyle and I want to save that moment. I enjoy social networking for episodes, especially When it comes to me, and one of the hardest things for me there is the necessity - when you know you have to upload something and you have to promote, that's the part I always have a hard time with. Besides I really like stories, I laugh there and love that my followers send me their things, questions and insights. We have a channel of communication, and they know what will interest me and make me laugh. It's fun to create empathy and closeness. I'm kind of feeling like I'm living my life, and if you want to get to know me that way I can introduce myself. But I'm doing a little, 

not pushing anything. forward". 

When was the last time you went out for fun?

"For a long time. I'm not the party type, but the Corona made me want to go wild, get to the wildest party in town, dance the whole evening, come back with knee and back pain, and not get out of bed for a week. Before the Corona I went to a party once a month, and for me a good pastime is conversation. I'm digging. Every day I have a soul talk. I'm digging. In a soul talk with a good friend or a good friend there's something fascinating and fulfilling. I really like people, exploring them, understanding who they are and why they behave like that. A good soul talk You can learn a lot about yourself, and of course about the person in front of you, and he can learn about himself through you. " 

When was the last time you were in love?

"A few months ago I started a relationship with someone and there was a very quick fall in love. We were together for a few months and it was good and fun, but it ended in a heavy heart. It ended because it was not our time, and when we decided to cut it was important for me to tell him he entered my heart, no. In the words of 'I love you' - because I did not know myself - I just wanted him to know how I feel because I did not dare to say that until that moment. I had fun sharing it.

"Now I want love and completely open to it.

What was would not stop me.

I'm 36, so come in droves so - called.

I want a relationship and kids and I totally go there.

It is very difficult to find a good relationship today, I feel like a lot of men are unable to cope with their fear of committing, dedicating and feeling.

It has to do with all this feeling of pomo we live in today (FOMO - fear of missing out, the fear of missing something; Shaz) and women have it too. I always say to myself 'maybe I could find something better?'

Or 'Is this really what I want?', But we will not really know until we try and give it time.

"I want someone who will not bother me that I am in the front.

That it would not make him want to 'prove' things to me.

My only expectation is that he will go by my side and I will go by his side, and that he will succeed in his field.

I want a person with ambitions, someone to be my partner.

I think I will not compromise on that. "

When was the last time you talked to your parents?

"I talk to them on a daily basis, in correspondence on WhatsApp and on the phone. My dad, David, always sends where he is and what he does. He is full of selfies and he is funny with a lot of charisma. My mother, happy, is a performer. She is a choir member and performs in front of Audience - and I'm a combination of both, two people who really like what. 

"When I was 22 my parents divorced.

I saw that it was not good for them and I knew it from a pretty young age, so for me a breakup is not such a terrible thing.

When we say goodbye I say 'congratulations'.

Separations can lead us to sensational and good discoveries, they sharpen what we want in life.

My mom is currently not in a relationship and my dad is yes, and I am in a good relationship with both of them.

They are my parents.

"I am the youngest daughter. I was born after three daughters and they called me two because it is an acronym for 'A girl was born again'. The truth is that my father really wanted a son, but he had four daughters. It did not stop him from taking me to the garage if he had a puncture. "And that's how I learned. I'm not waiting for a prince to come and fix a puncture for me, I'm going down to fix it. Or calling Dad." 

When was the last time you thought about childhood?

"I was a happy and happy girl, loving and whole with herself. I did not live my life as a fat girl, I did not say 'I am fat who must change in order to be loved'. The weight never prevented me from anything, but already at a very young age there were those who made me feel, and not At their fault, there is a problem.

"I'm not mad at anyone, but I urge parents not to say 'just lose weight and then you'll be perfect' and not to send children on diets out of a desire to help.

To help you when you are not asking for help is to decide for yourself that you are defective, and from the age of 8-7 there were comments around what I was eating and it was a matter of hiding sweets so I would not eat them, but there was no mental preoccupation with what was behind it. 

"I was basically in a weight loss group, standing in line to be weighed with women and hearing applause when someone dropped 200 grams, or told others 'the main effort'. When women around suck you how much you weigh, there's something intrusive and very disturbing about it. Then, as a girl, you "Understand that you are not part of the fashion world. There are no clothes for you, you are not in this loop. You can buy pants in the store that your mother buys in and be creative with it." 

When was the last time you went on a diet?

"I've not been on a diet for years. I got myself out of the dull, low-weight discourse loop. I have no weight at home and have not been weighed for years. I feel like no one believes me, but it does not matter to me. It was a preoccupation with Ninet's body and weight. Or Marina Maximilian, it's impudence.They became famous for their talent and reduced their preoccupation with their body, which is a depressing discourse.We talk about equality, feminism and female empowerment, but when you judge and measure a woman by her appearance, whether he meets conventions or not you suppress it.

"it took me a while to realize that my weight it did not detract.

People get into your desires and decide for you what you want, as if my wish is to be thin.

But this is not an ambition for me, and there is something terribly limiting here.

You are stuck in prejudices about oils in the country - lazy, hedonistic.

In works of art, for example, the characters of the bad women are usually fat.

Someone fat is considered unkempt and un-feminine. 

"Half a year ago I made a dietary change. My sister Keren Klein Tager is undergoing emotional eating and CBT therapy, and I saw her go through the process herself and she changed and became energetic and happy. She was at her peak and I said to myself 'what is this? I want too.' I was then accepted into the role of Yaffa Maximov (for the series 'Maila' about Etti Alon in yes; Shaz) and said 'I will come there is essential, for the first time with Yehuda Levy who plays Ofer Maximov my husband', and I decided to go to my sister's workshop without knowing anything about it before. . 

"The fact that I knew nothing only did me good. If I had known this method as a girl I would have saved myself suffering in life, because it is an emotional eating treatment. 

" We are emotional eaters, everything is emotional with us, and now, when there are no restaurants, people shop and eat on the sidewalk.

I do not believe for a moment that they are having fun, it's an escape and it's an emotional eating.

This workshop changed me and brought me closer to my sister.

I did not weigh in with her and have no idea how much I went down, but my eating has changed.

I got rid of sugar and gluten, and today I don't have chocolate at home and it is a choice and I do not lack it. "

When was the last time you showed up?

"Between the first and second closures I came up with the play 'Jake's Women' with Rami Weiberger and Yuval Sharaf at the Haifa Theater. There was first-time excitement in Corona, there was great hype around it, we were excited that people would come and everything would work and tick - and after four plays closed the culture, I was a member of the Shaham (Israel Players' Association), and these were ten months of zoos and meetings where we tried to get the cultural world back into action and take care of the players. Right now, the players are at the bottom of the food chain. "A major economic rupture, and if the players do not unite and strengthen themselves, we will not be able to take care of our social rights." 

When was the last time you were angry?

"I deal with anger quickly and also calm down quickly. My anger right now comes from what is happening to the world of culture. It hurts, insults, and saddens me and I am angry at everyone, and especially at the government, which has completely forgotten the world of culture and is not trying to rehabilitate it. In one of them. There is avoidance of talking about culture. I am a small business, Asi Levy is a small business and Neta Gerti is a small business, and we are not talked about or treated. There is a perception that if I 'pursue my hobby' and enjoy my job, it is not considered a livelihood. Not fair and I do not approach, play is a choice that I sacrificed a lot for. 

"By and large I try very hard not to get angry, because anger paralyzes me and when I get angry it's Big Time 'and does not release me for anything, when I do get angry I quickly release, not keep anger." 

When was the last time you were in a photo shoot?

"A month and a half ago, when we filmed 20 'Just at Home' shows in 'Here.' And there's something fun about filming during the Corona period, because there's little exposure to people relative to filming. Here we were just rotating experts, me and the staff. Myself ', because it's a subject close to my heart and my family. I come from a lineage of manual laborers. My great grandfather was a carpenter, I had a creative grandfather who worked in the post office but always built everything with his own hands, and so did my mother. Everything I know I learned from her, "Including holding a drill. My mother really did everything at home, and a situation arose that I am not afraid to do and always prefer to do myself from shopping. I save a lot by doing it myself. I found and renovated half of the furniture in the house. No one has a table and chairs like mine.

" Lee 'I wanted to take a look at the show and saw four episodes'.

She got excited, wanted to buy a hot glue gun and said to herself 'I can too', and that was the most fun feedback I got in my life. " 

When was the last time you made an important decision?

"The truth is that I decided to freeze eggs. I want to be a mother. I have not started the process yet, I just made a decision, but it is no less important. In general I am Libra and I have a hard time making decisions, but I have improved quite a bit and I know how to listen to myself and be more focused." 

When was the last time you encountered injustice?

"In these minutes the world of culture suffers from deprivation and injustice. In this world we, the women, earn 30 percent less than men and reduce us to the body, because everything is invasive here and women all allow themselves to be personal. You will be asked in job interviews when you plan to give birth, and yes, I I know it's not allowed, but we're the state of the combo. I have good companies in the field, and it's good for us to talk about these things too. You know how much your companies make, it's super important and it's no secret. I urge my friends to remember we have economic value, and I'm not ashamed Ask for it. " 

When for the first time?

When did you first take the stage?

"In fifth grade, I took the stage in a drama class in Hod Hasharon, in the musical 'Don Quixote.' I really wanted to be an actress, and we had three days where we performed in front of the city schools and it turned out that I performed in front of my class. I was excited that they would finally see me perform. They knew I wanted to be an actress. Then came the show, there was a sword dance and I calculated a wrong step - and I was at my peak, yes? That was my moment - and I fell back on my ass in the middle of the dance. I did not know what to do with myself, I got up and went back to the show, But I was very ashamed to go back to school.Then my friends said that the second I fell they laughed, but that's it, I did not become 'the one who fell in the show', thank God.Today if I fall on the street I will probably stay on the floor if I am alone, and if I am with someone I will laugh at "I used to be afraid of being seen and find out after two hours that I have an injury. Today I am more patient with my mistakes." 

Shani Klein // 36 years old, actress.

Resident of Tel Aviv.

A graduate of Yoram Levinstein's acting studio.

She has starred in TV series ("Dumb"), movies ("Dancing Arabs," "Zero in Human Relations") and theater.

She currently plays at the Haifa Theater ("Jake's Women") and presents the program "Simply at Home" here 11

shirshirziv@gmail.com