"We will not be less loved if we happen to think “me first”," says Sophie Calle. In a new book, the author makes it a gender issue and calls for freedom from “altruistic sacrifice” "We are talking here about daily yeses and not very engaging, but which still take time," she says.

"It's not that complicated, though. I didn't really respond or really hear what was happening in the hubbub of daily satisfactions," she adds.