Spousal trauma - what happens to the betrayed side?

The discovery, usually random, that the spouse has had sexual life outside of the marital agreement can be traumatic. Especially when it becomes clear that it is ongoing and repetitive behavior over time, it is a state of crash. Therefore, treating these situations requires a professional intervention that sees the opposite side - a victim of the situation, a person in trauma

Spousal trauma - what happens to the betrayed side?

The discovery that a spouse or spouse is cheating on us is one of the deepest crises a couple can experience. What happens when it's not a single novel? What happens when it is discovered that over the years the spouse has had a parallel sexual life through pornography or sexual chats? What happens when it is revealed that the savings in the bank have benefited other women?

This is a very common phenomenon and many couples choose not to "break up the package" and go to couple or sexual therapy, where they try to understand the couple's dynamics and work on the couple relationship. These situations are complex and require a different approach than conventional classical approaches.

The discovery, usually random, that the spouse has had sexual life outside of the marital agreement can be traumatic. Especially when it becomes clear that it is ongoing and repetitive behavior over time, it is a state of crash - a general lack of confidence, a lack of trust in the spouse, in the relationship, myself.

The reactions after such disclosure are similar to trauma symptoms - shock, anxiety, dysfunction, crying outbursts, sleep deprivation, loss of appetite, flashbacks, high sensitivity, outbursts, depression ... a long-lasting condition.

The trauma of the betrayed side is the primary trauma, not the secondary trauma. And this should be taken seriously.

How to deal with sex addiction, porn and occupations?

Many girls and spouses report that they have an expectation - from their spouse, family, caregivers - to forgive, and move on. But you can't move on right away. What's more, in many cases the initial discovery is only partial and over time, more events, relationships, sexual situations, spending money are revealed ...

Treating these situations requires a professional intervention that sees the opposite side - a victim of the situation, a person in trauma.
The offending, traitorous side, too, is of course traumatized by revealing the secret life, the prices to pay, the loss of life as he knew it, the loss of trust. He too is distressed about the sexual behavior that has taken over his life. Everyone needs a unique reference before getting into spousal care. There are no equal parties here.

Due to the complexity it is important to reach a therapeutic site that is familiar with the phenomenon on both sides and able to provide a sensitive and tailored response to this situation. A response that will give you a sense of security and security, a response that will help you understand the situation without blaming the betrayed spouse. A place that can give an in-depth reference to the sexual behavior of the cheating spouse, a place that can support the couple and guide them towards a healthy future.

More details on the Crimson Institute website