The film "Ever since Nadav" follows for three years the Raymond family who raised her son, and until the new child is born, when the mother is 48 years old "" After you lose a child, you don't mind dying "

• There was a huge soul. The late Nadav Raymond

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On July 28, an IDF station was attacked near Kibbutz Nahal Oz. Nine terrorists emerged from a tunnel key inside the territory of the State of Israel and attacked the post, which housed eight paratroopers. The terrorists fired and threw dozens of grenades, the fighters returned fire and a short-range battle developed. Five soldiers were killed, including Nadav Raymond.

The film "Ever since Nadav" was created by Inbal Shprintsk-Guelman, a neighbor and friend of the Raymond couple. As part of the film, she follows them three years after Nadav's fall, with each one in pain, and when 47-year-old Yuval announces that she wants another child.

"For eight years I have been a neighbor and a friend of my father and Yuval," says Sprintzk-Guelman. "I knew Nadav. I'm a film teacher at the school he attended. I started filming my father and Yuval at a time when they were starting to consider bringing another child into the world. It was clear to me all the time that the main thing in the film was their relationship and how she coped with bereavement. And bereavement. That's a point not much has been touched on in cinema. "

How dedicated were they to the camera?

"They trusted me very much, and we also decided that I show them everything before the movie comes out. There was one scene in the couple that they had a hard time filming, but I explained to them that it was really important that she get into the movie because she tells the story better, rather than from a yellow spot. The movie - it was a relief. They realized it was more a film about their relationship and less a classic memorial film. In the premiere we were able to do at Beit Gabriel, just before the Corona began, they said they felt we gave a different glimpse of bereavement, and mainly gave power and meaning to couples not talking about it. " .

To commemorate Nadav

Avi Raymond (55) is a sales manager in the field of agricultural tractors. Yuval Raymond (50) was a lawyer and converted to nursing. The two are parents to Noam (23, Yoav (18) and Uri, a one-and-two-month-old baby) - which the film accompanies the decision to bring into the world.

"When you lose a child then your barriers go down, in terms of privacy," says my father. "Maybe it's psychological, I don't know, but before all that, my life was very private. When they suggested we do the film, Nadav's memorial eyes stood out. The battle in which he fell was a bad reviewer in the media. The public consciousness about this battle was wrong A video of Hamas released as if it perpetuated the attack on the post, but the video was edited and the media gave it a stage without stating that the video was edited. I was a parachute fighter for 23 years, and tested everything possible about this fight. The conclusions I made were completely different from public consciousness. I confronted senior IDF officials and anyone willing to hear, because it was very important to me, as a fighter and patriot, to know the truth about the battle.

"The soldiers who fought there are underground and can't answer. They don't deserve to think they didn't function well enough. The public was told they weren't keeping enough, not wearing enough, but that's not true. They were dressed in full military attire, with full gear, though One did not sleep while guarding. They found themselves under fire coming from four different directions. "

Like learning to walk again

According to my father, another reason for him to make the film was to give hope to bereaved families who are in dire straits after their loss. "We wanted to show them how to deal with and fight for the relationship and the desire to continue life," he said. "After death, I tried to pick myself up. I went into the role of not showing the feelings outward, not tearing the kids down, not crying. No one can teach what it's like to lose a child. It's something they learn, like walking again. My coping was to run away "Not to be home, because I couldn't see Yuval's sadness. Yuval for her got very sad. Her facial features changed. She had room only for her coping and for the children. But thanks to the fact that we had very good relationships, and decades of good friendship - We chose to go to treatment, we knew we needed someone professional, we became other people after the loss, I was not the person she chose and Ya is not the same woman I chose. "

And in Yuval's care, she said she wanted to have another child. How did you respond?

"I was very wavering. Because of our age, because of the risks. Yuval gave birth to a 49-year-old, she knew it was a pregnancy, but it didn't matter to her. After you lose a child, you don't mind dying. As soon as I saw Yuval was determined and realized it was something he could do Help her - I was at peace with the decision. "

Book about Nadav.

"Nadav was a huge, generous soul. He saw everyone, looked at everyone, even those who did not necessarily stand out or lead. He was an athlete, loved the terrain and the extreme and was the Israeli champion of bicycles in 2011. He enjoyed every moment of his life." .

The film "Since Nadav", which follows my father and Yuval Raymond from the settlement of Dvora, who lost their son Nadav, a paratrooper brigade fighter, in July 2014 during Operation Eitan Cliff, will be broadcast tonight (22:40) here 11 .

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