The Corona crisis has caused many to lose their jobs and, as a result, tension in marital and family life. • How to manage the time as a couple? • Specialty seasons

• Go through the difficult time together

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The long closure caused by the Corona virus has hit hundreds of millions worldwide and around a million people in Israel. At one time, tens of thousands of workers were sent home, creating a painful reality in many homes where both spouses were living, one of them at least not working, which often leads to tension in relationships and difficulties at home.

Dr. Susie Kagan, a couple and private therapist for adolescents and adults, says, "The closure in Corona has undermined the balance in many homes, and now there are homes that are the main breadwinner. In this context, one of the most widespread anxieties in the Western world is economic anxiety, and the thing that scared him of every pulse on every second or third home in Israel. "

"In a state of financial anxiety, our behavior becomes less rational, and like any anxiety situation, you need to depend on those closest to you, who are the couple. In fact, we are experiencing two things at the same time, the livelihood being abruptly imposed on only one spouse and also having to support the spouse. The other one is asking for support because his life has changed beyond recognition and he gets up in the morning without doing anything, "says Kagan. "This reality raises the level of tension and anxiety, and it happens that couples come very quickly to anger and conflict.

what can we do?

"The couple should sit together and create assignments and a schedule that will ease both. If the unemployed is usually not accustomed to doing certain assignments at home, then it should produce a schedule that describes what he is doing from the moment she was set up in the morning. Also, very small gestures help carry the physical burden "For example, when the spouse comes home from work, it will be pleasant if he has a ready meal and he arrives at a tidy house."

Take a breath

Dr. Reign Tzipi, a couple, sexual and family therapist and head of the Family Center at Orot Israel College, says that the harsh emotional reality that comes with it must slow down our reactions to the couple in stress cases. So you should practice stopping and thinking and responding more carefully. Stress situations are places where all the cracks and all the creaking in pairs are more intense. Therefore, now the stress, the tension, the anxiety, intensify these problems and bring them more to the surface. Precisely because of this situation, now is the time to stop and rethink how to overcome the difficulty as a couple, how our two minds work together to get out of the crisis better. "

Rein proposes not only to engage in the present but to plan five years ahead. "Think about how you want to remember the period, whether you want to remember it as a crisis or a time when you took yourself and progressed as a family. When you look forward to the common goals as a family for years to come, you get proportion and a work plan."