Just a moment ago, he broke up with Maayan Adam after a long-term relationship, and it already seems that he is ready to love again • Asif: "It is clear to me that I will win"
After parting ways with his partner Maayan Adam, it seems that Asif Elkayam, coming out of "Big Brother", is ready to love again.
Elkayam posted a picture of himself riding a white horse, perhaps as a hint to the knight that he is, and wrote: "Looking for love? Getting on the horse again. The sun is shining again after long months of emotional fall. The last few months have been difficult. For me and her. We both faced difficult decisions we did not want. And we knew that as long as we were whole - every decision would bring with it a certain relief, an end to a crisis that was too long and too emotional.
"Because every person whose heart is broken knows that
leaving is
less painful than remorse. For
a long time I did not look in the mirror like now. Naked, clean, real. Without background noises, walls and distractions that padded the fall for me.
It's me for all my shortcomings,
it's what it is,
and I'm imprisoned. Thanks for that.
"Because you have to tell the truth," Asif continued in a confession, "when it's not good for you - nothing in the world can hide it. There is a certain sigh we all know, one that comes after a positive moment, and makes it clear that the moment has passed - but some distress still exists. It sounds too much in a house that was once happier. Without mediators and algae - I face the fears, line them up and have a conversation with them. I'm ready to hug you, we'll learn to live together. But you, I have a war with you. And I will win.
"For years I did not declare that I would win," Asif added in the post, "and suddenly it feels so obvious. It is clear to me that I will win. I am stronger than any crisis the world will summon me. And this is probably the most important insight from the last few months. We talked about love, the lack of it, and the personal shortcomings that prevent us from being loved. And an idea came up that caught my eye. So I talked this morning with some friends and girlfriends and asked - 'Which would you prefer, to be loved or loved?'
Some thought a little, some answered straight, but all answered ‘loved.’ And on the face of it it makes sense.
"We all want to be loved, we'd rather be hugged than hugged, mainly because one of the main impulses that drives us to a relationship is the need for a place in the world. But almost all of us, sometime in life, were loved by people we didn't love back.
People who have wanted you by their side all their lives, those who have seen us as perfect partners or spouses whose hearts were broken when you chose to leave.
It is relatively common, to be loved.
"But when a person lusted after you and you had no interest in it - did you feel loved? And in response lies an important insight. Because in fact - we feel loved only if we love the loving person back. That is - the possibility of being loved necessarily lies in the ability to love.
"So if you are in a period of seeking love, intimacy or a place in the world - remember one thing: you will never be truly loved, if you do not really learn to love."
What do you say, agree with the message?