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Among all the corona influences, it also revealed a simple truth: Israelis do not like to obey. We argue, ask and oppose. But we want our children attentive and obedient. Well, it does not go together


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Did you cover the closure?

Going without a mask?

It will affect your children

Among all the corona influences, it also revealed a simple truth: Israelis do not like to obey.

We argue, ask and oppose.

But we want our children attentive and obedient.

Well, it does not go together

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Ravit Raviv

Friday, 23 October 2020, 06:43

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"The police started, we did nothing"



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"My right not to identify, what happened?"



"I wanted to be on holiday with the family in Tiberias, I apologize"



Say what you will, but one thing the corona does excellently: it puts us in a beauty of sight in front of the face, sharp, clear, clear and painful: we do not like to obey.

We argue, ask, oppose, demand explanations.

On the other hand, we want our children to be attentive, obedient, to agree and to be respected.

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How's it going together?

How can one require the child to respect the boundary and uphold it, even if he is angry, even if it does not seem to him, and even if he does not really understand it.

How can we demand all this from him, when at the same time he sees us, violates the boundaries, the instructions, bursts out, yells and quarrels with the cops.

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But all this is not new.

It started a long time ago, long before the Corona.

Is, as mentioned, only puts us look precisely:



- when we ask our children to lie about their age at the entrance to the sites



- when we see our son throwing candy wrapper on the floor, and keep going as if nothing



- when we are dealing with a laptop while driving, and lying policeman caught us



- When we decide that the child will go to school with his mobile, so what if the teacher said it is forbidden



- when the child is late for school in the morning and we write to the teacher that he did not feel well



- when we go for a walk with the dog, and do not collect the feces



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Especially when everything is difficult - this is the time for a personal example

The guidelines are binding on everyone.

They do not only bind the children, or only the youth.

They do not only bind the at-risk population, or the education system.

They do not only obligate the elderly and nursing homes.

They do not only bind the religious, or only the secular, or only those who enlist.

They are binding on everyone - small and large.

Parents and children, MKs, judges, celebs and non-celebs.

Parents from all genders and from all communities.

If you break guidelines - do not be surprised that it will come back to you.

Enforcement of the closure in Ayalon South (photo by Reuven Castro)

On such difficult days, on days when we are confused and angry, precisely from here, an educational example can emerge from the top first.

The children look at us, examining every word, every step.

They are exposed, like us, to the media, to the sights, to the voices, to the shouts, they were also exposed to the plans: "What excuse will I make for the policeman", "When will I leave the house so that it will be safe and no policeman will catch me".

And if these are the kind of sentences they are exposed to, do not be surprised when it comes back to us.



When I require my child to listen to me and respect what I have asked of him, it obliges me first and foremost.

Be my word.

That's the whole story.

We have a responsibility far beyond personal responsibility.

We have collective, family, parental and social responsibility.

And when the day comes we will have to stand in front of our children and give answers, why we are allowed and they are not, why we are and they are not.



There is a way to protest.

There is a legitimate way to express disagreement and anger.

Breaking the law is not one of them.

Want to set an example?

Be inspired?

Let's start by keeping the rules, the health and respecting the law.

Were you caught?

Take responsibility

And if it happened that we slipped and violated the restrictions and guidelines?

Every action has a price and a result.

And if I chose to break the guidelines - I chose a fine.

Were you caught?

Do not resist, do not lie, do not try to evade violence or theft.

Instead: get angry, get disappointed, hit on sin.

It is important that the children see this, remember that we set an example for them all the time and all the time, that they will see that sometimes we too are wrong, angry, and grumbling and dissatisfied and think it is "not fair" and "unfair".

But the bottom line, at the end of the day, we are human beings who respect the law and the boundaries that come with it.



Ravit Raviv is a parent counselor at the Adler Institute

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