The Corona has brought with it not-so-simple challenges, and one of them is undoubtedly the plight of the dating sites • The restaurants and malls have closed, and sitting outside is cold • Winter is here, and the Jewish mind has particularly creative solutions
Not a simple situation.
Dating in Corona
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Liron and Avichai, two singles looking for a relationship, realized that during the Corona period the best option for them was to meet outside.
The problem is that they have recently had to postpone their date three times because of torrential rain.
"The closures delayed the dates. There were options like zoom meetings, but for me it did not suit. It is important for me to physically see the person I am dating, I had a hard time with the technological aspect. Once the relief was approved, the dates resumed and moved to public parks or private places. In the open air. The rain came, and with it the chances of dating outside were interrupted, "says Liron," You can not sit at home, because I will not invite me or I do not want to go on a first date to the house of a man I have not yet met, the restaurants and malls are closed. Possibility to meet without freezing cold. "
These things will identify anyone who is in the dating scene during the Corona period.
"This is not an easy time to go out on a date. Singles need the kindness of others to hold meetings," says Tehila Pearl from Jerusalem, who before the Corona hosted single men and women for dating meetings at her home once a week.
Pearl realized that a big problem had arisen among singles who wanted to go out but could not find where to sit now.
"It all started when I talked to my niece, a young student, and during a conversation I asked her how she was during this period and where Corona caught her. We rolled into a conversation and realized that the dating crisis, like everything in Corona, only the officer. Closing periods, preventing meetings, and finally traveling And meet - no where. In seconds all my truth alarm buttons were turned on, and that same evening I wrote to all my nephews that relevant ages a message inviting us to a date in our living room, with guaranteed secrecy.The messages were received about hearts begging for space, for four walls and a hot drink "The one we are all in to build their corner in life that is so waiting together. I realized that there are a lot of people who are just waiting for someone to give them a place, and I suggested on my Facebook to write in the comments who is willing to host."
In light of the many reactions to the post, she set up a Facebook group called "Home Dating in Corona".
"I did not believe it would reach such an order of magnitude. Families joined the group and began to offer their homes wholeheartedly. People also offered the guests staying with them meals, soups, coffee and cake. There were some who had already hosted the evening I opened the group and it is very exciting," says Pearl.
The Facebook group numbers about a thousand people, with many posts of people inviting men and women to sit at home for a date.
No fear of bringing strangers into the house because of the corona?
"I'm anxious. When the first couple arrived, I asked them to be home with a mask and then when they left I washed the dishes they ate with soap. In Corona, non-strangers are also feared because it is impossible to know who is sick if there are no symptoms, I am careful with everyone. Young women whose husband regularly wrote that the house is empty all week and you can go on a date. I asked them to download the post because it is a loophole that sometimes calls for a thief. This is a group on the net, and not everyone is righteous and good. Always something bad can happen but I think the benefit exceeds I hope no one is harmed. "
Racheli Ben Shimol from Petah Tikva, a member of the group, married and a mother of five, says she had no fear of inviting a couple she did not know.
"After I posted on Facebook that we have a vacant balcony in Petah Tikva with a beautiful view, one guy contacted me and asked if he could come for a date on Saturday night, and of course I agreed. I connected very much to the venture because the dating topic is very close to my heart. I try to match a lot. The meeting with the couple was nice, and it's a more pleasant atmosphere when the date is in someone's house.
The host creates with the couple a kind of small talk and it breaks the ice, especially on a first date.
I see from the reactions on Facebook that it seems that the single men and women are happy about the project and that people are aware of their plight. "
The ultra-Orthodox format
A date at home is no stranger to the ultra-Orthodox sector.
For them, it is customary for the date to take place at the home of one of the matchmakers or in the lobby of a hotel.
David, a divorcee from Ashdod, says that he hosted a date on the roof of his house: "The format of a date at home is familiar to the ultra-Orthodox long before the corona, but it is a sensitive point for modern ultra-Orthodox divorcees looking for chapter two. They did not believe they would meet again." "They even promised themselves not to do it. I invited a friend to a date on my balcony, lit candles and brought them a bottle of wine, and they said it was a pleasant experience and different from the dates they had known in the past."
Liron and Avichai eventually chose to go on a date with Liron's girlfriend in the living room, and for them the experience was interesting.
"Her children were at home and did not prepare in advance for their embarrassing questions," she says, "however, this is a real lifeline. I hope more people will offer their homes and host single men and women who want to find their one and only and get married, also in Corona." .