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Violence against women, the 10 stereotyped phrases to eliminate from our language - Lifestyle

2020-11-26T04:33:13.556Z


(HANDLE)November 25 is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. The origin of this day dates back to November 25, 1960, when in the Dominican Republic the Mirabal sisters, considered revolutionaries, were assassinated by order of the dictator Trujillo. However, it was only in 2000 that the United Nations dedicated this day to raising awareness of violence against women. Even to


November 25 is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women.

The origin of this day dates back to November 25, 1960, when in the Dominican Republic the Mirabal sisters, considered revolutionaries, were assassinated by order of the dictator Trujillo.

However, it was only in 2000 that the United Nations

dedicated this day to raising awareness of violence against women.

Even today,

violence against women has the dimensions of a global pandemic

: 1.2 billion women in the world, or one in three women, have suffered it (source: UN).


Violence is physical, abuse, torture, beatings, to the point of dying: femicide, a term that we read, live, unfortunately pronounce with great frequency but which must never make us addicted, knowing that the victims are not numbers but women, people and that the pain does not end until after a long journey.

Then there is a violence made of words, pressures, humiliations and intimidation and blame that has entered our daily life - on the street, at home, at work, on social media - and none can be said to be safe, a violence that can be subtle. , so reiterated that I don't even notice it anymore (sexed expressions at work, for example).

The consequence of this 'common' language is a form of psychological violence which strongly damages, day after day, the self-esteem of women.

Words also have the power to reinforce certain prejudices and justify aggressive behavior.

In fact, it is precisely the ways of speaking, often rooted in various prejudices, that become ways of thinking and must be fought, eliminated, they must be the goal of a cultural battle to be carried out every day, not thinking that it is a small thing.

It is a first cultural revolution to be done together, men and women (yes also women because sometimes we hear certain routine expressions, certain clichés even by women).


“If we consider that language is the main filter through which we perceive the world, it is evident that it influences the way we relate and make judgments about others.

Speech has great power and unfortunately there are many everyday expressions that confirm the subconscious prejudice according to which men are intellectually, physically and morally superior to women "observes Sara Grippo, in the Babbel teaching team that supports the association Donne in rete contro violence, DiRe and the Home for Battered Women of Milan (CADMI), the first reception center born in Italy. 


Here is a list of expressions that hurt: it is a language that we must all leave behind, knowing that the words, the clichés are the result of that cultural heritage that is the first obstacle to gender equity to which we have aspired for decades.

At work

Various expressions used in the world of work detract from the skills of women.

Some expressions convey the message that certain job positions are suitable only for men as in the case of "This job is not suitable for a woman" and that the role of women should be confined to the kitchen ("Give yourself to the stove").

Furthermore, according to some idioms, women can only reach the top using their body ("Who did you go with to do this work?").

Then when a woman demonstrates her skills she is compared to a man "A woman with balls".

In addition, women in the workplace are sometimes considered frustrated and sour: “My boss / colleague is sour, she will have periods” is just one example.

Love as a possession

Certain expressions such as "If you are not with me, you cannot be with anyone" and "Why didn't you answer the phone right away?" May seem like expressions of love and concern, when in reality they reveal the intention to have control over the other person There are also other expressions that more explicitly demonstrate the intent of control, such as “Dressed / made up so you don't go out”.

Attacks on self-esteem

Often women who live in a situation of violence find it difficult to get out of it because the abuser humiliates them to the point of destroying the strength and self-esteem necessary to leave the relationship through expressions such as "Shut up, nobody cares what you say", "Nobody you will believe "or" You are crazy, it has never happened, you invent everything ".

The threats

The fear for their own safety and that of their affections stemmed from threats and blackmail such as "If you leave me, I'll kill myself", "If you say it, I'll kill you", "If you try to hear X (friend / colleague) again, you will see that it happens ”is one of the reasons why many women remain in abusive situations or avoid reporting their abusers.

Victimization

A motive or justification of the crime is often sought in the behavior or clothing of the woman.

"You provoked it", "What were you wearing?" And "You were drunk" are just a few examples.

The crime of passion and the portrait of the aggressor

The events with the most serious epilogue are narrated as "crimes of passion", crazy gestures due to "too much love" or justified by jealousy as something that "blinds". Furthermore, the aggressor is often portrayed as a decent person to arouse empathy towards him, for example "Sportsman, believer and good worker: the portrait of X". "We believe that language plays a central role in the cultural change necessary to have a different look at the phenomenon of gender violence. We are not talking about VICTIMS we are talking about WOMEN, in a state of temporary discomfort. The term" victim "in fact stigmatizes women in a passive role and ignores the strength of which it bears when it undertakes the arduous path of exit from violence ”declares President Manuela Ulivi.

Source: ansa

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