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No more fighting over cleaning and mopping: These tips will save your relationship

2020-12-05T21:06:48.528Z


In many relationships, couples argue about household chores. If you don't want to quarrel about cleaning and wiping, you should follow these tips.


In many relationships, couples argue about household chores.

If you don't want to quarrel about cleaning and wiping, you should follow these tips.

  • Again and again the topic of

    household

    leads

    to arguments

    in

    relationships

    .

  • The

    housework

    has no

    relationship killer

    be.

  • These

    tips

    for consumers

    can help

    avoid

    arguments

    .

Offenbach - Anger and dispute about the

household

ranks

high

on the list of

relationship

killers.

Sentences like "I'm not the

cleaning lady here

" are

repeated

in every

relationship

, no

matter

how good

.

Often one has

partners

or a partner feel to make the household more than the other.

Anger about the partner's apparently neglected duties in

housework

build up and often lead to quarrels.

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There is no need to have a dispute about the household in a relationship, with these tips you can avoid trouble (symbol picture).

© Sebastian Gollnow / dpa

But the budget does not have to become a controversial topic, because with a few simple

tips

you can avoid such anger.

Avoiding Household Disputes in Your Relationship: Joint To-Do List

When it comes to the

budget

, as in other areas of the

relationship

, a clear delegation of tasks is important.

So make a weekly

to-do list

for

housework

.

Discuss beforehand who would like to take on which work and distribute the unpleasant work as fairly as possible.

Also think about how much time the respective household chores require - because with this

tip you also

avoid another controversial topic.

Because sometimes we tend to

assess

our work contribution, be it in the

household

or elsewhere, greater than our

partner

.

This, too, can lead to misunderstandings and

arguments

in the

relationship

.

However, if you

clearly discuss

the amount of

housework

beforehand, this controversial topic can be avoided.

Because you have already agreed in advance how great the effort of the individual tasks will be.

Division of housework by country

Women / men who cook and do housework every day

Sweden

74 percent / 56 percent

Denmark

82 percent / 55 percent

Germany

72 percent / 29 percent

Great Britain

85 percent / 49 percent

Spain

84 percent / 42 percent

Italy

81 percent / 20 percent

Austria

83 percent / 28 percent

EU average

79 percent / 34 percent

Source: Statista

Household as a controversial topic in the relationship: What can be done together

Each

partner

does not have to do

their

share of the

household

for themselves.

Dan Carlson, an assistant professor at the Chair of Family and Consumer Studies at the University of Utah, told The Atlantic that both

partners

can benefit from

doing

the

housework

together.

Household

activities

, such as

washing up

, can easily be done together.

While one

partner is

washing up, the other can dry off.

But the

dishwasher

can also be stored together and cooked together in the evening.

Behind this there are many advantages for the

relationship

, because working together on a common task can

bring couples

closer together.

One can also use being together to get into conversation with each other again, which also has a positive effect on relationships.

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Avoiding household disputes in a relationship: praise is a must

It's a seemingly simple

tip

, and yet it is

often and happily forgotten

in

relationships

:

praise

.

Because even though

household

chores are routine work that often simply has to be done, praising your partner can move mountains here too.

And not only

your partner

benefits from the praise

, but you too.

As the website “Dr.

Stress ”emphasizes, praise releases

endorphins

and

dopamine

and thus even promotes the ability to work.

And not just with the other person, but also with yourself. Praising your

partner

for a job they have done in the

household

can make not only him or her happy, but you too.

The website has also worked out how to properly praise:

  • Even seemingly everyday routine work takes time and effort and deserves praise here and there.

  • Praise what started, what was done, and what went well.

  • Avoid exaggerated vocabulary such as “super” or “really great”.

  • Adding the word “already” to a description is already a praise, because you honor that the partner has already started something.

Avoid arguing about housework in the relationship: It doesn't have to be all 50:50

In order

not to let

the

household

mutate into a controversial topic

in the

relationship

, open and positive communication is particularly important.

However

, it is not

a tough 50:50 division of the

housework

.

Above all, it is important that both

partners

feel comfortable with their tasks in the relationship, even if that means that one is doing a little more.

Incidentally, baking soda is a real all-rounder in the household, making it much easier to do a lot of housework.

(Sophia Lother)

List of rubric lists: © Jens Kalaene / dpa

Source: merkur

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