New series of articles: The secrets to creating a relationship by the author of the book "From all my educational educators" • This time: How will you know if the man is in your interest or not?
A man who wants, does.
If he does not then he does not want to.
How simple
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You may have heard in the past explanations from men such as, "It's because of the corona. There's nowhere to go, everything's closed," or "I got a big project now at work that robs me of all my time" or he suddenly remembers that he is not really built for a relationship as he thought a month ago Progressing too fast and he needs time to think, and also "I'm not a man of definitions, let's flow and see where it develops."
When Kashran and I started dating, he was all enthusiastic and courted me like crazy.
Phones, messages, dates.
After about a month, during which I became attached to him and began to develop feelings, he took a step back.
When I asked him to explain the matter, I received an explanation: "I am in a stressful time now, understand me."
So I understood him as he asked and waited, but the passion from the beginning did not return.
I tried to initiate myself, and I got a different explanation from him each time why he exactly could not.
After a month, a new Facebook photo of him hugging someone jumped out at me in surprise, and that's how I realized that he and I were not.
And this is exactly the catch: he is not really saying that he is not interested, but is transmitting that he does want to continue the relationship.
So you wait and wait and wait ... like I waited, because I understood him, and that's the mistake.
Why?
Because a man who is interested in you will not claim that he currently has no free time, will not stop courting because of workload, and miraculously will be very much in the matter of definitions.
He will call, text, offer you to go out, be creative despite Corona's limitations and plan your trip for next Saturday.
He will invest in your relationship, also and especially if it is the beginning of the relationship.
A man who wants - it's a man who does!
And respectively, if he does not do he does not want to
If you're in a relationship with a man who does not communicate, barely texts, does not initiate, does not invest and does not invite you to spend time together, it means that he does not want to.
It's so simple that sometimes the female brain is unable to contain it.
Again, a man who wants - it's a man who does!
This is the most important sentence a woman should internalize when it comes to making a romantic relationship with a man.
Therefore, it is important that you internalize, a man who really wants you will do and initiate, so men are built, they are built for doing.
When they do they feel they are progressing towards the goal and achieving results.
If you are important to him, he will initiate and act.
Yes, even if he is shy.
Important to know, to this day I have not met a single man who disagreed with this statement.
A man I dated in the past even expanded the sentence as follows: A man who wants - finds a way.
A man who does not want to?
Finds an excuse.
Therefore, if the man in front of you provides you with excuses, and no matter what, it means only one thing: that he is not interested!
And you have only one thing left to do, go, move on to the next man who will come into your smile, want you and do.
We all know the stories we tell ourselves: "He wants to, but ..." Believe me I have been there quite a few times myself, but with a hand on heart, are you interested in a man who wants you but not enough?
I believe not.
A man who wants you but not enough, will replace you with another the second she arrives.
You do not want to be the deputy or the one who keeps a small fire, right?
You're probably not interested in being one of the few women he's dating at the same time.
None of us want that.
And no, he does not need time to get to know you better and then light up.
Most men are not built that way.
Assures you that once you internalize this important sentence, you will save yourself wasted time, "our relationship to where" conversations and a lot of heartache and disappointments.
Spend your time with a man who really wants you, a suitor and an initiator.
There are quite a few.
Spoiler: In the next tip we will talk about the meaning of words for men versus how women perceive them.
The author is the author of the book "From All My Educational Circulars" - All the Secrets That Never Told You to Create a Relationship
