Did you think you should flip the list and compromise?
You make a mistake • Choose the qualities that suit you in a partner and you will be close to finding the one
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When I was a single woman, after many failures to form a relationship, despair overcame me.
I was sure God had forgotten me and that there were no good quality men out there.
I thought the problem was in me, that I had too high demands with an endless grocery list and that it was time to compromise.
I was so tired of the felt, that I was willing to take action.
How unfortunate that this was not the right thing to do.
I compromised my desires, I compromised my dreams and I compromised on all the qualities that were important to me in the man I wanted.
Just then, the man I started dating told me he was not interested ... I could not contain it.
How can it be that he is not interested in me?
I have so much to offer, how can he not see it?
I had a very hard time after that man informed me that he was ending the relationship with me.
In retrospect, I know the feeling was based on incorrect or at least incorrect information, this man did not want me because he saw what I chose not to see: he saw that we did not fit.
After the pain was a bit forgotten, I realized that I compromised too much, and when you compromise too much, the man feels it, and if he does not feel it, you yourself will feel it after a short time.
Therefore, so that you do not waste your time on a man who does not suit you and is not your real partner, in order to save you unnecessary disappointment, despair and heartache - be faithful to your heart and inner soul, and make yourself a proper grocery list.
True, the prevailing opinion is that in order to get to know the right partner we should throw away the grocery lists because they make us picky, but I argue that the exact opposite is true.
Want to find a relationship?
It's time to take back the grocery list and think about what's right for you, what you would not be willing to compromise on.
While it is important to be flexible and compromise, you need to know where to put the line.
You need to put in front of your eyes what really matters to you, you need to think about what you will not be willing to compromise on, and put everything else aside.
Focusing on what is important to you will focus you on finding men who are right for you.
The author is the author of the book "From all my educational educators" - all the secrets you have never been told to create a relationship.
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