Paula galinsky
03/14/2021 15:00
Clarín.com
Society
Updated 03/14/2021 4:14 PM
Set goals, close stages, have a routine, plan.
Life, as we are used to going through it, has a bit of all of that.
In December we toast and balance, between January and February we set goals and March is the month in which the year formally begins.
It is now when we take out the annual pass for the gym, we start a course, we begin to think about the next vacation and to save for that.
In 2021, the story is another.
For the second year in a row, it is difficult for us to project in the medium term.
Unlike 2020, we do not live it with surprise.
But although we know the rules of the game, according to experts, the limitations of the pandemic make us
tired and frustrated
.
How do you face another year without the possibility of planning?
"The pandemic continues to alter our lives and there are still people who are getting used to the idea that this year will not be normal either,"
Claudia Borensztejn, a psychoanalyst physician, member of the International Psychoanalytic Association
, tells
Clarín
.
“In this context, it is difficult to commit to an activity.
Those who have children of school age, for example, are complicated: one week the baby goes to school in the morning.
The following week, in the afternoon.
And in a month, capable returns to the Zoom ”, says the specialist.
And he assures that
"it cannot be planned
.
"
“We arrived at this situation prepared but devitalized.
It does not surprise us but it tires us.
We want to recover the life of before ”, he highlights.
He points out that
we depend on meeting external objectives
to be able to set our own goals, in reference to vaccines and other measures aimed at controlling the pandemic.
For Borensztejn, the path has to do with
"trying to normalize life
.
"
“It's okay to make plans while still being realistic.
We should learn to face life in a different way, even for a while: go
step by step
, try to adapt to changes, think in the short term, be patient, "says the psychoanalyst.
Gabriela Goldstein, president of the Argentine Psychoanalytic Association (APA), agrees that the situation we are experiencing is different from last year.
"2020 was one of uncertainty.
We felt like we were part of one of those movies where they portray a dystopian future.
Today we have more information and tools, we know what the rules of the game are, even if they imply giving up a certain dimension of well-being, which ranges from suspending vacations to hugging without fear ”, he highlights.
Although it is difficult to plan as before, he insists on the importance of
not being overridden by the desire
.
"We must put together certain routines even though we are not sure that they can be sustained over time," he suggests.
Also, he says, you have to
work on frustration
.
“It is a time when we have to be more flexible and creative.
For example, today it is not possible to have a wedding for 300 people, so those who have a project of these characteristics will have to define whether they will carry out an intimate ceremony today or if they differ ”, he explains.
And he adds: “The key is to
live what you decide with joy
.
You have to find moments of enjoyment in times of precariousness because
life is today
”, adds Goldstein.
According to Harry Campos Cervera, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst at APA, "
planning for the long term is denying the pandemic
.
"
"We can think from here to the weekend, we have no certainty about the next few months and we have to accept that. We have to be
more spontaneous
and handle
ourselves
with plasticity. Success will depend, in many cases, on the
adaptability
of the person ”, highlights the specialist.
Personal characteristics and age influence: “A child does not experience it the same as an older adult;
neither is a relaxed person than a more rigid one. "
"There are people who deny the pandemic and intend to continue with the plans they had before the coronavirus, when today it is impossible to organize a large party, organize a trip, it is not the time to get an annual pass for anything. That attitude does not help. context, there are things that
we
are
going to have to give up
”, he adds.
The most distressing situations occur when the gap between the current situation and the ideal to be achieved is very large.
“
Changing the ideal can be a way out
.
The mistake is to pretend nothing is happening or to personalize what is happening when, in reality, we are all affected by the pandemic in some way, "he closes.