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What can be done now to improve the atmosphere at home?
Many freedoms were taken from the individual this year but one freedom remained under his control - the ability to decide how to deal with stress, the period of unemployment, domestic disputes and social anxiety.
Liat Cohen is an emotional therapist in psychodrama, expanding how to navigate the family path in conditions of uncertainty
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Liat Cohen, in collaboration with zap doctors
Thursday, 11 March 2021, 12:41 Updated: 14:07
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The feeling of uncertainty intensified.
Family in Corona closure (Photo: ShutterStock)
"The challenges I see every day are related to insecurity, uncertainty and anxiety, because we are people who want to know what will happen tomorrow, and are used to it but the truth is that no one knew what would happen day before the corona crisis, and now the feeling of uncertainty has intensified," Liat explains. Cohen is an emotional therapist in psychodrama.
According to her, this is a challenging time, but as parents our job is to lead and sail the ship.
"This is a complex period for us parents as well, but we knew complexities in the past and dealt with them. It is important to share with the children the strengths and solutions, which we found even when we did not know what to do."
Many children during this period complain of abdominal pain, are afraid to go back to school, experience anxiety attacks on the bus on the way to the educational institution and tend to quit, is there cause for concern?
"First, before worrying, it's important to understand that these are symptoms that cover up something else," Cohen explains.
"Children experience uncertainty, their reality is completely shaken, who said we will be in school today and so will tomorrow? Because at any given moment the school can be closed. Nothing is taken for granted now, and the challenge is to accept the fact that this is the case at the given moment. To bring back the moment of tomorrow and also of the day after tomorrow. "
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"Second, if the child is experiencing an anxiety attack, manifested by increased breathing or difficulty breathing, rapid heartbeat, hyperventilation and so on, he should be helped to relax and given tools to deal with the situation. It is important to talk to him" at eye level ", stop, breathe together With him, to tell him, "that all is well" and "it will soon pass," to take a few long breaths like a cloud in the sky, which passes and the wind moves it, and soon another cloud will come and know that it will end soon. "
Once the child's breathing has been regulated, you can ask him a number of questions, which will help him transcribe his feelings: What do you want to tell me ?, What scared you so much - you can also get a general answer like "do not know".
In any case, it is recommended to ask clear questions and most importantly not to get stressed, it is worthwhile to try to exchange roles with the child, and examine what would have helped me in his situation, if I were in his place? ".
It is important to get out into the open air.
Family doing sports (Photo: ShutterStock)
On a daily basis, parents are not accustomed to the discourse of transcribing emotions, certainly on days when the home becomes a "pressure cooker" where everything rises and floats.
Anger and disagreements that are not spoken out loud also affect the mood and atmosphere in the home.
Are there ways to create a pleasant atmosphere within the existing conditions?
"It is important to go out into the open air and stay in the outdoor space, ride a bike, breathe clean air. Ventilate and ventilate the body and mind. This step prepares the ground for a deeper emotional need - making social connections."
This year in particular has been very difficult for children.
Children have to reconnect every few months, sometimes this connection is not formed at all, they do not know who they miss, do not know the names of the children in kindergarten or in their new class.
"Emotional expression in the family setting is a tool for coping. I recommend having a family conversation with all family members, parents and children together and encouraging sharing," says Cohen.
"The family discourse allows a space where you can talk about everything that goes through your heart and mind, present the new reality and make requests, which will make it easier for family members to deal with it, try to see what is important to your children, what helps them, if they can not say it in words, ask them Draw, or express it artistically by costume or role play.We are now required to change the patterns of communication in the family, as the world has brought us into a situation where we are committed to being together, keeping rules, talking, expressing and understanding that what helps one will not necessarily help another. The way to help a relative is to allow him to express himself and speak. "
Cohen emphasizes that in addition to emotional expression we have practical tools such as breathing, meditations, mindfulness, which are currently available online and in various languages.
Today you can find guided imagery videos online, which can be performed with the children, and so on.
It is important to keep an agenda.
Zoom family (Photo: ShutterStock)
What is the most important thing that a parent can implement right now and completely improve the atmosphere at home?
"Keep an agenda. The agenda gives confidence is an anchor, you can lean on it and cast certainty in the current reality. Those who zoom in - study zoom, in the hours set for it, then they need to know what they are doing, with which friend they are meeting. It is important to keep things. "We did even before the Corona crisis, even if things are done in a more limited framework. An agenda brings balance to certainty and security."
Cohen clarifies that it is important to keep a little to ourselves - the parents, to continue to do what makes us good.
"It is important to continue working on our relationship, to formulate tools, and to convey a uniform message to children, even if we need to talk about conflicting messages, which are now being experienced with increasing intensity. The flood eliminates the 'elephant in the room' - when there is something unusual, we talk to it. ".
Liat Cohen, is a therapist in psychodrama, holds an MA in Haifa University and researches the field of cognitive-emotional-sensory self-regulation.
Today she initiated and manages the "Inbal Center" - a therapeutic space for psychodrama and the arts in Zichron Yaacov.
For more details and to contact 053-2473573
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