Fanya Oz came out in defense of her father after her sister Galia's harsh allegations against him • "There was no sadistic and emotional abuse ... Galia had verbal tantrums"
"Writes here for life, and also in the name of the value of truth."
Galia Oz, Amos Oz, Fanya Oz
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Melanie Fenton, Meir Partosh, Yossi Zeliger
Fanya Oz, the eldest daughter of the late writer Amos Oz, responded to her second daughter Galia's allegations of abuse. Disguised as love. "
"Something that disguises itself as the truth: my reaction to Galia Oz's book," her face began, in a long and detailed post.
"My name is Fanya Oz. I was there. Between 1960 and 1979, every day, from four to 18:45 in the afternoon, and on Saturdays also between nine and 11:45 in the morning ... This post is enslaved according to my sister, who, for her part, My ex-sister. I would like to respond here to the allegations made by Galia Babi, her allegations about my mother, and indirectly (and often orally) me and our brother Daniel as well. Facebook is not my preferred platform, but after seeing the behavior of media people in this case - not everyone , God forbid - I understand that here is the least bad option.
Some of my friends may stop supporting me after these things and it's a shame, "her face continued," but here I stand.
We have reached a point where silence is much more painful than speech, both for me and my loved ones.
That is why I must not remain silent.
No longer 'noble', but here I stand.
I must tell the truth as I know it.
Not for the good memory of Dad.
Father's memory will go to his destiny, to the end of days, until he ceases to have any more readers, lovers or haters.
I write here for the sake of life, and also in the name of the value of truth.
I have no other moral choice. "
Her face described in the post a happy, supportive and embracing childhood, on the part of a father whose love for his daughters was undeniable.
Despite its great mental complexity and the socially challenging kibbutz environment, she presented the father-daughter relationship as normal and loving.
While she does not deny the three violent incidents described in the book, she claims that they were burned into the memory of the youngest daughter because they were so unusual in nature.
"Galia's book describes three episodes of violence on the part of Dad," she wrote.
"Removal from the house by dragging on the stairs, pouring cold coffee on her, and beatings our father beat our mother. The first incident was indeed. I remember her too. I would have immediately confirmed my sister's claim about this incident, had it not been followed by a terrible and frightening line of untruths. .
Something that disguises itself as the truth: My reaction to Galia Oz's book is called Fanya Oz.
I did be there.
Between 1960 and 1979, every day, from four to 18:45 ...
Posted by Fania Oz-Salzberger on Wednesday, March 17, 2021
Fanya Oz's post
'Untruth' can be a blatant lie, or a deliberate manipulation, or a hallucination, or a lingering memory bias, to the point of total belief in what was not, that robs the mind of a person who has turned his own life into an ongoing hell.
Perhaps with the help of a psychologist or psychologist, perhaps under the influence of toxic books, and perhaps mainly on his own.
Yes, the dragging of the stairs and the hurling of the 'filth' curse occurred, and it is engraved in my memory almost as in the memory of Galia.
Maybe for the same reason: because it was so traumatic.
So unique.
So different from Dad we knew, she's 8 and I'm 11.
"I was not present at the cold coffee spraying affair. In the afternoons I was usually at work after school, and Galia did not often come to her parents' house between two and four, when most of the kibbutz members slept at noon. I believe Galia herself and her dear friend Yossi Tzur. "There is only one problem: these are the only two cases in which Dad used violence against Galia. So according to Galia's book, and so according to my memory."
Hence, she accused Galia of turning spotty incidents into an ongoing experience of abuse at her father's home: "There was no 'routine of sadistic abuse', nor emotional. No 'creative violence', no 'there was terror in the house', no 'difficult events haunted each other' "And 'I' hid the blue marks behind long sleeves, even in the summer. 'All these sentences scattered throughout the book are a simple and horrible grammatical ploy: turning a one-time past into a continuous past."
Oz later wrote that Galia was the one who would throw harsh sentences at her and her parents and that, contrary to her claims, her contribution to creating the charged atmosphere in the house was greater than that of their father.
"When Galia's verbal tantrums began - I have no better term - I did not understand why she also stood up against me ... Here is one of the most sacred angles of this tragedy: Galia discovered the power of words when she was about the age when Dad discovered the power of words," she wrote .
"About that time I started to be afraid of her, and the fear did not pass until the final removal from her life in 2015. I was not afraid of her at any moment. We still had moments of brotherhood, humor, openness, comfort. But the fear accumulated because her annoyances were sudden, accurate and permanent. It happened mostly when I objected to her words or her wishes. Sometimes I said a word that acted inadvertently as a trigger. For all my being and behavior over the last few years.Even in the distant past.About how I look, what I wear, how I talk, how ugly it is.What zero am I actually.
"And I had no answer. She always won," her face recounted.
"I always ended up defeated and sprawled on the floor, mentally and sometimes I even flattened my body, hating myself through my sister's tongue whipping. The last horrible phone call, six years ago, I ended on the living room floor of my house in Zichron Yaacov, scratching myself in the face and calves "Such was the power of her words."
Their father, too, she says, began to fear at some point his daughter's reactions: "Dad, too, began to fear her adolescent exile. I slowly saw how the language and body language of both of them changed mutually. He continued to love her until the day he died, but began to fear. The evil in him, the evil in his Polishness, and he began to fake it. It was not fake love, not control and oppression disguised as love, but true love stumbling, failing, desperate. The bat mitzvah blessing he wrote for Galia was a bad attempt to speak to her in her own language "Days, who was allergic to all sentimentality, marveled at the sarcasm and scornfully rejected his emotional words of love."
She also wrote about her complex but non-violent parents' relationship, the rift between her sister and her family over the past half decade, and the field trial she and her family faced after the publication of a book by Galia Oz: "Most 'believers in God' also convicted me." My assistance to the criminal as an adult. The fools among them - for not helping the victim of the drag on the stairs when I was 11. Journalists sent me questions on WhatsApp: Did your sadistic father abuse you too or just your sister? "More sophisticated journalists, including some who were very esteemed, wrote that they completely believed Galia, even if she deviated from the facts here and there, and that any attempt to refute her remarks was no less criminal."
