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Close victims: in the second wave of Covid, statistics went from personal pain

2021-05-18T04:52:57.371Z

With more than 70 thousand deaths in the country, the deaths begin to impact because more people have acquaintances or relatives affected or who have died. Experts analyze the impact of grief and losses.



Paula galinsky

05/16/2021 2:32 PM

  • Clarín.com

  • Society

Updated 05/16/2021 2:32 PM

It was January 2020 when we all set our eyes on China.

They spoke of a virus

, of massive contagions and deaths. We were very far away. He wasn't going to touch us. A few months later, the first infected arrived in Argentina and our first deceased. We counted 100 and read their stories, we were moved, we were afraid, we shut ourselves up. Time passed and there was no choice but to begin to naturalize the new reality: the chinstrap, the double mate, the fist instead of the kiss. Also the daily reports with the number of deaths from Covid-19.

But that terrible number continued to rise (10,000, 50,000, today we exceed 70,000) and the escalation caused us to

re-signify

the pandemic.

At this point,

almost everyone knows someone who was seriously ill

and, in many cases, we also have a relative, friend or family member who has passed away.

Our social networks were filled with goodbyes, those fatalities today are part of our circle.

In dialogue with

Clarín

, specialists refer to this new moment that we must face, marked by

loss, grief, identification

and, in some cases, denial.

"When things happen close by, when it comes to people close to us, we tend to feel identified," explains Harry Campos Cervera, psychoanalyst and psychiatrist at the Association of Psychiatrists of Argentina (APSA).

In this sense, the anguish is greater because "the loss of that other is also our

own loss due to the bond that united us

to that person who is no longer there" and because when someone we know dies another idea arises that terrifies us: we think that it The same could happen to us.

In this context, the specialist details, the impact of a near death 

can lead to greater awareness and care or denial and rejection

, as a defense mechanism against a fact that we cannot assimilate.

In the second wave of coronavirus in Argentina more people have victims of their inner circle.

How losses and fears are processed, according to specialists.

To this is added the situation of individual grief and, in this case, also collective due to the number of deaths.

“It could be said that we went through three moments as a society: at the beginning we were faced with an

invisible threat

.

Then, with the increase in fatalities, we began to naturalize what was happening as an

adaptive way

not to live every day in despair.

Today that 

despair

returned due to

the proximity of the deaths ”

, reflects Campos Cervera.

Stopping watching the news or reading the newspapers, as a way of

forgetting for a while about the coronavirus and its consequences

, is no longer enough.

In social networks we meet friends or acquaintances asking for the recovery of an infected loved one or firing him.

“There are people who respond to these demonstrations by abandoning the networks for a while, it is their

form of escape

to avoid identification.

At the other extreme are those who practice

hypervigilance

as a control strategy, ”says the APSA expert.

And he adds: “They are people who look for certain details

that distance them from the victim to calm down

.

They repeat that this other was infected because he did not take care of himself or died because he had comorbidities ”.

The second wave

The second wave, Campos Cervera adds, comes with

an extra concern.

Not only do well-known people die, but in many cases they are

young

people

.

“At the beginning of the pandemic, children were afraid for their parents.

Today the opposite happens:

parents are scared for their children ”

, he warns.

For Guillermo Bruschtein, also a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst at the Argentine Psychoanalytic Association (APA), one of the most difficult questions for human beings has to do with “representing one's own death”.

"The pandemic puts us in front of the

unmanageable

and the

catastrophic,

" he highlights.

“We need to feel that we have

the situation under control

(even if it is not real).

That relieves us.

But in this context it becomes almost impossible to achieve certainty ”, he says.

He agrees with Campos Cervera that "when someone close dies

we reconnect with the fear of dying."

"Feelings of anguish, rejection, denial and also

phobias appear,

" says Bruschtein.

“The loss of an other whom we love implies, at times, losing a part of oneself and of the way in which we organize our own life.

It results, in turn, in the lack of references ”, adds the expert.

The death of a public figure can also hit us.

"The

death of a famous person

, who we do not know in person but which is part of our routine because, for example, he 'accompanies us' every day from television or radio, can also affect us," he confirms.

The key, here too, is in

the identification.

In this context, the APA specialist remarks, pre-existing pathologies such as

anxiety

disorders

,

insomnia

, and autoimmune diseases

are increasing

.

“Sharing what happens to us with others always helps.

Also assistance

from a professional, ”advises Bruschtein.

Finally, it points out that what is happening generates pain and even panic and that, on many occasions, the prolongation of

deprivation

situations

can lead to more

hostile

behaviors

.

"The way of behaving is changing because we

lack resources to face what we have to live," he

closes.

SC

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Source: clarin

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