An industrial psychologist sees only two ways to work with a narcissistic boss.
Does your boss fall into this category?
Narcissistic bosses usually overestimate themselves immeasurably, are hardly interested in others and act ruthlessly and coldly: Not good prerequisites for a nice cooperation.
But how do you know that your boss is a narcissist?
Many people have mild narcissistic traits, but there are also pathological narcissists, with whom living and working together can be extremely difficult.
The following traits suggest that your boss is a narcissist:
Your boss is incapable of criticism
: If you cannot criticize your supervisor constructively, this is the first indication of a narcissistic personality, industrial psychologist Markus Dobler is quoted by Business Insider.
Narcissists would shoot immediately if criticized.
Your boss does not
admit
when he or she has made a mistake:
Admitting mistakes would seriously affect the fragile self-esteem of a narcissist, says Dobler: “That is why it cannot be that I make a mistake as a narcissist. It's always the others. In psychology this is called 'externalization'. "
Your boss is a self-promoter
: According to Dobler, so many people with narcissistic personality disorder get into leadership positions because they can be very charismatic. "If I manage to artificially spice up my own self-esteem, then I'm usually also able to sell myself well," Dobler is quoted further by Business Insider. Narcissists could appear extremely charming, friendly, and affectionate, but appearances are deceptive. Basically, narcissists are based on calculation behind such behavior.
The needs of others are ignored by narcissistic bosses:
Narcissists find it difficult to empathize with others.
This can also have fatal consequences in the business world.
According to Dobler, narcissistic bosses usually do not “lead” this way, but “manage” them: “They move resources, similar to chess pieces.
And pawn sacrifices are often made here, ”says Dobler.
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Dealing with narcissistic bosses: "You sneak around, or you keep your distance and leave the company"
If you recognize your boss in the behaviors and traits mentioned above, you could be dealing with an extreme narcissist.
In such a case, Markus Dobler, who wrote the book “Dealing with Incapable and Difficult Bosses”, sees only two options.
Either you flatter your boss incessantly and thus make the cooperation bearable.
Or you leave the company
.
“You are mumbling around or you keep your distance and leave the company.
Or you can oppose and show the manager what kind of whistle he is.
Then it usually doesn't take long to leave anyway.
But not voluntarily, "says Dobler:" The best advice I can give: Get away as quickly as possible! "
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