Javier Firpo
05/29/2021 3:54 PM
Clarín.com
Society
Updated 05/29/2021 3:54 PM
Gabriela Fernández (37) has been making the effort to forgive herself, but she is furious with herself. He cannot believe or understand how he endured so much
physical, psychological and even economic violence
. "I, precisely I, who was always a mine of arms to take, strong, determined. How can it be, how!", He repeats angrily while showing a framed photo in which he sees this 37-year-old personal trainer, born in San Luis, proudly showing off her medals after becoming
the bodybuilding and fitness champion of
Argentina in December 2019.
That triumph meant, beyond the sporting honor, the transformation of a woman who for three years, between 2015 and the end of 2018, lived a nightmare as a couple and living with a former student of hers, Diego Olivieri (41).
The teacher ended up abandoning him because he could no longer bear so much humiliation: "Thank God
I had the clarity, in the midst of years of confusion, to listen to my children, who were begging me to leave that house. "
Four months after that physical victory that patched his decimated soul, Ulises, his nine-year-old son,
received on his Instagram a video from an anonymous man with a laconic message: "Abrilo"
. Scared, without clicking, the boy went to tell his mother, who barely saw the link and imagined everything: "I had been receiving threats, warnings that they would disclose intimate material, but I thought they were not going to do it." Gabriela pluralizes, as she refers to her ex, Olivieri, and her current partner, Tatiana Yacarini, "a woman obsessed with me, paranoid, who
believes that I continued to secretly see myself with him
." He denounced both of them a year ago for improper disclosure of intimate documents and for providing pornographic material to minors.
Gabriela became a fitness champion in 2019, after her illness.
"He messed with my physique, which he knows is my Achilles heel."
On Tuesday, April 14, 2020, the residents of the city of San Luis stopped talking for a while about the coronavirus and the incipient quarantine, to "
gossip" about the video
"of that girl, with an imposing physique, who is a mother. of two creatures, who live near here ",
It was the huddle. The intimate video that Gabriela - who appears alone in the image - had given Olivieri at the beginning of 2018 had an impact on the conservative society of San Luis. "I did not go out on the street for six months, I felt immense shame, because San Luis is small, everyone knows each other and is a gossip.
And I felt violated, because I was always very careful with my body."
All the granite image that Gabriela exhibited in that champion pose had nothing to do with this woman who, just four months later, succumbed. "As the days passed,
my health condition worsened, since I began to have all kinds of disorders
: panic attacks, anxiety, bruxism to the point of breaking two teeth, locks of hair fell out, which I had until waist and they medicated me with pills to sleep and to stand ... I
had to continue being the mother of Ulises and Baltasar
".
Gabriela has two children from different parents with whom she maintains a harmonious relationship.
"That helped my ex-mother-in-law Carmen, a mother to me, to give me a roof where to be with my children after escaping from that house of terror.
I lived in her house for three years and it was the worst choice I made in my life .
The guy (NdR: refers to Olivieri) went out every night, hung out with all the women he could think of and he didn't care about me. When I asked him why he behaved that way,
he reacted with unusual violence.
Once he fractured both of my wrists, once again he kicked my belly, he also spun me in the face and tried to hang me
. "
The physical and psychological abuse added to a cocktail of threats
"paralyzed me, anesthetized me, I was left without reaction for years. I moved to her house with a 5-year-old son and a 6-month-old baby. I could not do much and, in a very selfish way, I privileged having a roof, but it was the enemy's roof. "
Gabriela bites her lip and shakes her head, from her rented apartment in downtown San Luis.
"To think that he was a student of mine, but he never interested me as a man, his frivolous, egocentric and materialistic profile generated rejection,
but he built a strategy to conquer me by radically changing
. And I fell into his trap."
December 2019. Her medals proudly look here: "I was able to stop feeling like crap and rebuild myself."
He repeats over and over again that the worst thing that happened to him in life was having lived with Oliveri, Gabriela crushes, who talks to
Clarín
while walking around his living room. "I can't be sitting, doing nothing, I'm hyperkinetic ... On top of that,
I'm not working because the two gyms I was in closed down due to the pandemic, so I'm eating the walls,
" graphs this woman who deposits her (a lot) energy giving classes through Zoom and collaborating in the group "Women who help women", where he places himself "in a place of useful victim, since from my experiences I can give a hand".
Light a palo santo incense and draw the smoke in the air ... walk to a small shrine with the Virgin Mary. "I am very devoted and I rely on her a lot, she never abandoned me," she slides and sits next to a small ceramic effigy. "Now
I am praying for my internal healing and to get a job
, because I have two children and a rent to support. Today the parents of my children save me, the help of my mother and also my sister ... Without them I don't know what it would be up to me, "she whispers looking at the photo in which she looks like a champion. "Today my physique declined a lot, I am not this woman, I am more
normal
, less marked and with swollen legs."
Gabriela deeply regrets the distress her children had to go through, "who luckily did not witness most of the attacks I suffered.
Only once did that guy push Ulises, a pivotal moment that meant that we left that house
, which For the boys it was also a liberation, because while we lived there, the oldest (Ulysses), especially, did not speak, lived content, tied ... Today his personality is different, luckily, more in line with that of a boy of his age. And the little boy, Baltasar, recently asked me
why I cried every night when we lived in that house
. I didn't know what to answer him. "
In the tax injunction, Diego Oliveri is accused of "supplying pornographic material to minors, improper disclosure of correspondence and threats."
But, why did Oliveri viralize that video, with what objective?
"He couldn't bear me leaving him, leaving him and he in the last year of the relationship, when we were fighting badly,
he threatened me and extorted me that if I left him
or went with another man he was going to broadcast that video that I had sent him A long time ago and he kept on his phone like a treasure ...
I have the conviction that he thought that I was not going to endure and he would kill me
. And I swear I thought about it, I swear ... ".
Gabriela knows that Oliveri got involved with a topic - the physical and the image - capital for her. "He knew how careful I was with my body and to publish that video that I made of him to stimulate him, it was really humiliating and out of the context of the relationship. My head was a thousand, it exploded,
you have to be and get in the shoes of someone who is naked and in a sexual position in a video that is multiplied by thousands of eyes!
It was a betrayal of a miserable person ".
In October 2020, Gabriela once again rubbed shoulders with the street.
He could no longer endure the confinement after 180 days of self-confinement
, but he also needed to work and he received an inescapable proposal for a gym for women only.
"It was the perfect excuse and to my surprise I met loving, respectful people, who knew everything but did not make firewood from the fallen tree.
Working for several months did me very good, I recovered my self-esteem, little by little I returned to my axis
, something that I value about myself in these times. I think I am more centered, with a different energy and with inner well-being ".
Why did Oliveri viralize that video?
"Because he couldn't stand me leaving," says the teacher.
A few weeks ago, walking down a downtown street in San Luis, he saw Oliveri coming a few meters away. "He did not see me, but I followed him with my eyes for a long time, I noticed him lost - he had suffered a stroke in November 2019 - and quite overweight. When I had him relatively close, I crossed the path and there I thought about how I feel for him. And the truth is that I
don't hate him, I don't have a grudge and I tell you more, I forgive him, I forgive him more than me
. You will think I'm crazy, but I think it has to do with a very big change of mine, with an improvement and that helps me to be better. I felt hatred and resentment and it is a horror, you cannot live like this. "
Gabriela thinks a lot about her children, she doesn't want to neglect them anymore, she emphasizes. "I unprotected them a lot and luckily life gave me one more chance. Today I need to be well in my head and inside, I no longer think obsessively about aesthetics, about muscles ... What was the use of seeing myself in a mirror and feel incredible, being dead inside? I am much more than a body,
Ulises and Baltasar need a healthy mother, not a poster mother, with tight miniskirts and deep necklines "
.
Gabriela only hopes that Justice is on her side.
"
I want them to apologize to me publicly.
I do not want him to go to jail or anything, I only demand a pardon and that the judge deign to call my ex and his partner to investigate, because as the prosecutor who is leading the case considers it , There is overwhelming evidence that blames my ex, "says the San Luis woman, who after more than a year began" a relationship very timidly. But things are going super slow, because
I was very hurt and it is difficult for me to let go, surrender and trust
".
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