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Arguing or inseparable? This is how siblings influence how we behave on the job

2021-06-08T20:59:56.123Z


Siblings influence us more than we would like - also at work. Psychologists reveal what sibling rivalry makes us and whether firstborns are better leaders.


Siblings influence us more than we would like - also at work.

Psychologists reveal what sibling rivalry makes us and whether firstborns are better leaders.

Relationships with our siblings are the longest connections humans can have.

All the better when siblings get along well.

But for some, the tatters also like to fly - with consequences that can even extend into professional life.

We learn competitive thinking from our siblings

As psychologists have known for years, our relationship with our brothers and sisters affects the way we conduct ourselves on the job. The reason: We practice certain behavior patterns with our siblings in childhood. In professional life, we then call up these learned behavior patterns again. This is also confirmed by the Hamburg child psychiatrist Michael Schulte-Markwort. "How in the profession

rivalisiere with others

,

which is something that I as a child learn by sibling relationships

," the expert reveals in an interview with

Business Insider

.

Especially with children who grow up with one or more same-sex siblings, the competitive thinking should be particularly strong: "Among brothers the competition is usually tougher than between brother and sister." But also with children with a small age difference, i.e. less than 18 months, the competition should be particularly pronounced.

Many face competition by setting themselves apart from their siblings: "A lot of children try to assert themselves against their siblings by being different," says psychologist Jürg Frick to the portal.

"

You are subconsciously looking for a niche

that your brother or sister has not yet occupied." Does the firstborn stand out primarily because of his hard work and good grades?

Then the second might try to shine in sports.

Of course, we also learn positive things from our siblings: "If siblings supported each other as children, for example when there were problems with their parents, then they trained

patterns of cooperation and solidarity,

" continues psychologist Frick.

If someone later meets a colleague or a supervisor who reminds us of our siblings, these behavioral patterns can be called up again - and a harmonious cooperation is created.

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However, Frick clears up one rumor: that the oldest siblings mutate into managers through birth.

In fact, the parents have a major influence here.

“There are first-borns who are made responsible for their younger siblings by their parents at an early age,” says Frick in an interview.

“And there are firstborns who enjoy taking responsibility for younger siblings.

Those who are proud of it and maybe even flirt with it. ”Anyone who has already enjoyed explaining the world to their siblings and taking care of them will in all likelihood later flirt with a leadership position.

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