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Just before the absorption in the kindergartens: 5 parent counselors with the one tip that helped them the most
Absorption in a new gene is often a complex challenge, bringing with it crying, tantrums and regressions.
So what how to make it better?
Here are 5 tools to help you help your kids
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Yifat Sani
Friday, 13 August 2021, 07:49
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At this stage of the great freedom most parents are anxiously awaiting September 1st, and at the same time anxious about the moment when their children will have to find their place in a new educational framework.
And this is especially true for parents whose young children are starting a new kindergarten and facing an adjustment process that can be challenging.
It is not yet known whether the school year will open as a series in September, or whether it will be postponed due to Corona closures and restrictions, but in the end - it will open, in one form or another, and your children's coping will begin, regardless of the epidemic raging outside.
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The best way to prepare for this challenge is to use the experience of others, and if it is possible to learn from the experience of those who also specialize in the field - it is even better.
So we asked 5 parent counselors at the Adler Institute to tell us what was the one tip or tool that most helped them in their children's adjustment processes to new settings.
These are their recommendations:
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Allow yourself to trust
Trust the staff, who come to do the best and most professional possible, and trust your child - who has strengths, abilities, inner strengths, flexibility and adaptability.
Trust yourself - that you have assimilated values, taught him what to watch out for and how to integrate into society, built a bridge with him (or with her) for a good relationship and tightened the relationship between you.
Communicate to your children your sense of security in him.
Children go to kindergarten and school (Photo: Giphy)
During the first days in the framework, and even before, convey to your children your sense of security in him and in the new space.
Get to know the staff members by name, kindergarten corners, toilets and playground, and continue to be there for him at the end of each school day to hear experiences and shares, help him with new struggles, mediate between his thoughts and general logic in kindergarten, and most importantly, listen to his heartfelt experiences. The new.
Dalia Eilat
Do not be afraid of crying and difficulty
There is no one like the other, even if the other is his big brother who got along great.
Be sure to look with love, look in a respectful way and respect my child’s private rhythm.
Does it take him time to fit in with the playground?
Did it take him a while to get used to a new bed?
Did it take him a while to warm up in a wide family reunion?
Apparently it will take him time here too and that's just fine.
That's his pace.
Doesn't take him time usually and now yes?
So that's how it is when you enter the garden.
There is no one right and preferred way.
There's what's right with my child.
Not to be afraid of crying, not to be afraid of difficulty, not to fear for his future.
Understand that this is the rhythm, this is the child.
I will encourage any progress and feed any emotion.
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Reflect to the child his abilities and strengths
A child who feels that his parents believe in him develops a positive and self-confident self-perception towards the transition, and hence the chances that the transition will indeed be more successful are high.
We need to believe in the child and trust him, it is important to remember that our child has a wealth of abilities and skills.
He has already moved between educational settings, got used to new staff members, new buildings and met quite a few children his age.
Therefore, it is important that we trust our child who is due to successfully cope with the current transition.
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Make the new one a seller
It is advisable to talk to your children about a week to three days before the start of the year, and prepare the children for a change.
Take a preliminary tour of the garden area, see the building and courtyard (even if it is only from the outside) learn the way and talk about the names of the staff members who will accompany him in the new garden.
Helps to relax and feel protected and safe with the familiar and known.
Girl holding a transitory object (Photo: ShutterStock)
You should also bring the child something familiar and loved from home (blanket, doll, diaper, favorite pacifier, etc.) A transitory object helps to relax and feel protected and safe with the familiar and known.
For the older ones, it can also be a friend you know from the previous kindergarten or the neighborhood.
For toddlers, it is recommended to give a "borrowed" and familiar object from the parents, such as a club card, key, jewelry and more.
The fact that the parents have something in their hands helps them to develop the confidence that they will come to take them.
As hallucinatory as it sounds, it makes it easier for them to know that they have something we need and we will certainly return for it, of course it is worth noting, not to give a real and valuable or safe object in terms of safety.
Judith Oliver
Expressed a lot of understanding and empathy
When the child expresses concern about the transition or difficulty parting with the current kindergarten, do not cancel his feelings, do not move on, give legitimacy to his feelings.
On that occasion he was reminded of situations from the past in which he overcame difficulty and adapted: "Remember we moved apartment and came to a new kindergarten, you did not know anyone, you had a hard time at first and slowly felt better in kindergarten."
Set adjusted expectations, avoid promises like "what fun you will have in the garden, a garden of the great".
Understand and talk about it being a process and it will take time and you trust and believe in his abilities and his strengths.
In addition, avoid prizes related to the process of your child entering kindergarten, avoid promises - if you do not cry, I will bring you a gift, if you overcome we will go for ice cream together.
Tell the child that you trust the kindergarten, that it is a good and suitable kindergarten for him.
When Dad and Mom trust then I too can trust and feel safe.
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