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Weaning from diapers: How do you help a child easily get rid of cockroaches as well?
Many parents take advantage of the great freedom to wean their children from diapers.
The hot weather The parents' relative referrals are a significant advantage, but on the way to rehab there are challenges that can produce frustration and even regression in the rehab process.
An expert explains how to get through them
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Dana said
Sunday, 15 August 2021, 11:54
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One of the common problems in diaper parting, or weaning, is the "poop problem."
Many parents are frustrated and worried that the child is doing great with the pee, has stopped missing and has a lot of success in the bathroom, but something is stuck with the poop.
There suddenly the children avoid, hold back, refuse to sit on the potty or toilet, ask for the diaper again, do in underwear, or "in installments" during the day, in short fail to release.
So let's start from the end, the process of parting from the diaper (or as it is known - weaning from diapers) is a learning process for all intents and purposes.
And learning, easy and material in young children, is based on trial and error.
Our children need to experiment and practice in order to acquire the new behavior, and what to do pee we have many times a day while the poop appears less.
Accept that the learning process of poop release in the toilet naturally will be slower than peeing.
And here's a line for worried parents - the phenomenon is very common, much more than you think.
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Apart from the frequency, there can be many and varied reasons for the phenomenon - from the need for control, training in restraint and release which often leads to constipation and pain, to difficulty in parting and fear of the famous "flop" to the toilet, until today there was a diaper that "collected" the whole package.
Whatever the reason, and every child is a world and its fullness is unique and special, usually the solution for a child who is having a hard time letting go will be the same - let go!
And here's the place to say that stress can manifest in many ways even if our intention is completely positive, too much joy the first time he succeeded, multiple takes to the bathroom, stories, songs, persuasion, promises of prizes and gifts, tables, applause, phone to grandma and selfies with the first poop .
Our smart kids quickly realize that this is a matter and like any matter - the more we want the more they will want less.
So release the celebrations, the questions and the pleas, as well as the expectations, because they catch the disappointment, and instead try to send an optimistic message "I trust you and know that in the end you will succeed ...".
Try to convey an optimistic message.
Girl sitting on a pot (Photo: ShutterStock)
After we release the pressure the next step will be to regain control.
Our children realize very quickly that their way of gaining control over their parents is through eating and needs - because it's their body and we can not do it for them.
In order not to get into struggles for control and power around matters of needs, I suggest transferring control to the child, using words only you decide, determine, know, will do the job and if you manage to release him other control channels during the day - what good.
The next stop is the understanding that in order to poop, one needs peace and concentration, the annular muscles need relaxation in order to release, the child needs to be free to listen to his body.
So avoid sitting him down with screens or distractions, and if possible let him sit for a few minutes with himself.
And maybe this is the place to be precise - when I mean sitting I also mean whites - the body position where the knees are close to the abdomen (on a pot or on the toilet with a small bunk) is best.
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The next step will be to normalize the action, many parents inadvertently and of course not maliciously, get used to conveying a poop message in general it is dirty and smelly, "be careful not to step on the poop" "be careful there is poop here" "Alas you touched poop must wash" "" Let's replace an unpleasant being with poop "and more.
Our innocent and sweet children got used to being careful and maybe even apprehensive - change direction, allow them to experiment with different textures, colors and smells, treat poop as a healthy and natural thing.
You may need to entrust yourself with proper nutrition in the process.
Toddler eats watermelon (Photo: ShutterStock)
The next obstacle on the way to the long-awaited "flop" will be control of the child's diet and exercise, during the process you may need to adhere to heavy drinking, foods rich in dietary fiber such as fruits and vegetables, and moderate exercise, such as exercising the lower body. Dancing and jumping do the job beautifully.
And the last stop how not - empowerment, remember it is a process that takes time, and difficulty releasing poop is a natural and common phenomenon, encourage the child also on the trials and small successes along the way, and try to adopt an optimistic look - after all we all do in the bathroom.
Still, when should you seek counseling? If you are already deep in the process and still have no progress, if you find yourself in many power struggles and objections, if you have already gone through a number of previous failed attempts and you feel frustration affecting the child then feel free to seek advice and guidance.
Dana Amar is a certified behavioral analyst, parent counselor, lecturer, expert in accompanying the family cell and developing a first-of-its-kind workshop that prepares couples in transition to parenting.
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