Sympathy cannot always be influenced.
But when it comes to certain behaviors, experts know what they can do.
It can help you at work if people around you find you sympathetic.
Unfortunately, the opposite is often the case - which can be due to certain behavior.
Psychology * plays a major role.
Experts say what everyone can improve on themselves.
Tricks for more sympathy in your job: Psychology plays a major role
Hand on heart: have you ever thought about how you affect other people?
This question arises not only in private life, but also in the
workplace
*
.
Because especially
colleagues
* with whom you are not necessarily friends often do not know what you really are.
Do you think that other people will (immediately) like you?
There are a few empirical values of how your behavior could work.
If you want to work on yourself here, you should read these tips.
According to the experts at "Karrierebibel.de", this stands in the way of becoming popular:
Negativity:
Those who only see the bad in everything and complain about everything and everyone repel others, say the connoisseurs.
Because the phenomenon of negative reinforcement can spread to anyone.
"Just complaining instead of actively changing something sucks out the last drop of energy."
Gossip:
People who like to
gossip
about others can poison the working atmosphere, the experts know.
"As long as you are on their side, everything is fine - if you disagree, the tide can turn quickly."
Such "leaks" cannot be trusted.
Phlegmatism
: If someone feels "boredom in person", this is rather unpleasant when in doubt, as such behavior appears extremely monotonous.
Anyone who feels addressed here should definitely work on their communication skills, is another tip on "Karrierbibel.de".
Profile neuroticism
: This point is probably one of the most unpleasant behaviors for other people, which is anything but sympathetic.
Because people around you get the impression that everything is all about you.
If you want to become more popular, you should instead focus more on other people.
Submissiveness:
Anyone who tries to please everyone and constantly puts their own needs aside appears, according to the experts, "unsupervised" and is "an easy victim for colleagues with bullying tendencies".
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Appear pleasant at work - this is how you can:
Put yourself in other people's shoes:
What values and goals
does
your counterpart represent?
What are the character traits and interests of the other person?
"Those who decipher these questions can react appropriately to their fellow human beings".
so the tip on "Karrierbibel.de".
Listen actively
: Anyone who wants to be personable and effective should also listen carefully and show respect for the other person.
This also means taking back yourself in the moment and not wanting to talk about yourself all the time.
Ask others for advice: Asking
others for your advice gives you a feeling of importance and competence, the experts know.
Another advantage: It distinguishes you from an "unsympathetic know-it-all *".
Imitate a person inconspicuously:
"You can become more popular if you imitate a person. Most of the time, this is something that happens automatically anyway when we find someone sympathetic. This is what is known as the resonance phenomenon," explain the career experts. What is meant are "facial expressions, gestures, certain behavior patterns as well as modes of expression and choice of words". The psychological effect: "Through this harmony you radiate sympathy and harmony." Show that you are on the same wavelength, and the other person will feel "automatically more comfortable" as a result.
Nevertheless, be authentic:
"If you want to become more popular, the point is not to please everyone," advises the portal.
Nobody should bend, corners and edges are also allowed.
This includes, for example, saying no when a colleague asks you to take on a job.
Address others by name:
Especially if you are new to the job *, you cannot remember all the names right away.
The tip on "Karrierbibel.de": "Make an effort anyway. It shows that you are interested in your counterpart, that it is important enough for you to remember the name."
Communicate clearly and confidently:
"If you express yourself clearly and understandably, you automatically work on a better relationship with your counterpart," according to the advice.
On the other hand, those who express themselves ambiguously or whose behavior is not clear enough risk misunderstandings in communication, which everyone should better avoid.
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