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Every organ has a name: why it is important to teach girls to name their genitals correctly
Neither poop nor pee - it's time for your girls to name their penis by name, and you will too.
An expert in healthy sexuality education explains why this is so important
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Daniel Sarantsky, in collaboration with JAMA
Monday, 11 October 2021, 06:40 Updated: Thursday, 11 November 2021, 06:31
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You may be embarrassed already from reading the title of the article, which is exactly why it is important that you keep reading it.
Let's start with an interesting fact - in the Hebrew language there is the word vagina for the female genitalia, but this word is not common in most adults and children so it is given countless names that sound like children or just go around the real nickname, while little boys call their penis "bulbul" and some " Pin "without any problem.
So why is it important to call Lapit by name?
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, author of the book "Reliable Information on Sex - How to Talk to Children and Adolescents About Sex in the Screen Age" and co-CEO of the Israeli Center for Sex Education "Reliable Information on Sex", explains:
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There he belongs
When we give something there it becomes ours.
When our penis has an uneven and unclear name because mom calls it "poop" and dad calls it "vagina", the teacher calls it "pee", it is confusing and distant from the obvious belonging of the vagina.
This is your girl's vagina.
It belongs to her just like her hand or head, she "decides on it".
If she named it, she would have no doubt about all of it.
She will not have a feeling that something there is strange.
Mom calls him "Pushpush" and Dad calls him "Futty", the teacher calls him "Pee" - quite confusing.
Girl sitting on a pot (Photo: ShutterStock)
There is knowledge and knowledge is power
You teach your girl about her body parts from the moment she is born - "Where's Tamari's hand? Give me a hand", you get excited when she points to her belly button or when she learns the names of the fingers, but are embarrassed to tell her it's her vagina? The message that comes to her from such a young age is that everything has a name, but there is one thing that is embarrassing or strange to the mother when she says it. When you behave like this, you are actually saying to your daughter: "We are not talking about it. It is forbidden. It is strange. It is embarrassing. Mother and father do not understand this. Talk about it with someone else." This can lead to a lack of knowledge that increases in adulthood, when the subject of sex begins to be particularly intriguing.
When something has a name that is allowed to be said aloud - it is legitimized.
Now examine yourself:
● Is it difficult for you to say "tosik"?
● Is it hard for you to say "bulbul"?
● Is it hard for you to say "vagina"?
If you answered: No - no - yes, it's time to ask why.
Why is it not legitimate to say vagina?
Why is it legitimate to say bulbul?
What is the message to your girl that you are embarrassed to say the name of her penis?
If you treat her penis like any other organ then there is no problem with it.
It is an education for healthy sexuality from an early age, for love of the body and belonging to it.
It is an education for healthy sexuality from an early age, for love of the body and belonging to it.
Mother and daughter embracing (Photo: ShutterStock)
There is a means of communication
If there was a uniform name for a girl's vagina, they would talk about it more with themselves or with you and develop their affection and belonging to their vagina. When your daughter knows how to put (give a name) her vagina faster and clearer, she will also know how to tell you if something bad happened to her there.
In conclusion, although it may not be natural for you to do so, be sure to call the vagina by its name, and remember that when you revolve around the real nickname you are creating an issue around the subject that may well pass to your daughters as well.
Tip for parents: When we teach girls the name of the genitals, it is important to teach both boys and girls.
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