Will it come back?

The change that sex undergoes after childbirth

Postpartum sex is not a simple thing for many women, which affects, among other things, the relationship.

A sexual counselor who specializes in the postpartum period explains how to re-create intimacy

Daniel Sarantsky, in collaboration with JAMA

22/11/2021

Monday, 22 November 2021, 06:49

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Congratulations, girl.

You are the mother, the spouse is the father, and here you are the parents, of the first, second or third child.

You and the environment are busy talking about the baby: is he asleep?

Does she suffer from overeating?

Have you purchased this or that product?

You are both tired and busy caring for your home, baby, economy and well-being.

And what about you?

After all, once before pregnancy and childbirth you were a romantic couple and now, after childbirth and pregnancy, things have changed a bit.

You are happy but exhausted, can suffer from depression or depression, your vagina, which was once a sexual sign, has taken a baby out of it.

Your entire chest is dedicated to feeding the little baby, the body is still sore from birth and all the internal organs have moved during pregnancy.

As a result of pregnancy and childbirth, your body image can be damaged and even then the sexual desire that currently has no place.

And the spouse?

Does he even find his place in the new lineup of the family?

After all, so many things have changed, is it even legitimate to think about returning to a sexual routine?

And are it at all possible?

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an expert in infant development, a sexual counselor who specializes in the postpartum period, mentions that the medical guideline is to avoid returning to a sexual routine during the postpartum period, which lasts six weeks.

It's your time, Mom, to try to rest and recover from the birth.

After the initial recovery and in order to feel better about yourself, try to eat well and make some time for an occupation that makes you happy.

It could be coffee with a girlfriend, a shopping spree, good food, sports or anything that can put a smile on your face and make you feel good.

Do not be afraid to ask for help - whether from family or friends or whether it is paid help.

Not an easy time for a relationship.

Illustration of mom and dad sleeping in bed with baby (Photo: ShutterStock)

At the same time, try to give your partner only your time, without the baby, to create a new intimacy. This does not mean that you should just jump into bed but focus on being attentive to each other and especially to your physical and mental state. Focus on couple intimacy, tell and share about your parenting experience as well as concerns about having sex if any. Romance and listening will help a lot during this period since good sexuality is basically good communication. If after the birth the communication is maintained then the relationship will also be maintained and so will the sex life return, at the appropriate time, to your home.

Although it is a difficult, hormonal, and confusing period you can enjoy a good sex life after the baby is born. While they may be a little different at first, as time goes on and out of genuine listening to your body and your mental state, you will begin to develop a couple routine and re-acquaintance with yourself, and with your sexual partner.

The Jama app was established with the aim of addressing mothers of babies from birth to age three, and centralizing for them content, activities, tips from experts and videos that will accompany them throughout this challenging period.

All the content in the app "grows" together with the baby and is precisely adapted to its developmental stages, so that the mothers receive only what is relevant to them and interests them at any given moment.

The Jama app is the place for mothers in Israel to meet and get to know other mothers around them, and create new and exciting friendships in the fascinating journey.

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