"The victims know what will happen, if they feel it, they know they are predestined by now."
These are the words of Vittoria (real name), mother of a victim of femicide and foster grandmother of the two motherless grandchildren.
"They took the girls to kindergarten, I went to work. Then he, who wanted to go back with her, killed her and killed himself. Unfortunately, these stories are all the same": this is how Vittoria remembers that day 6 years ago in which his daughter Sara, a 37-year-old teacher, was snatched from life.
The woman, who had already moved in with Sara when the couple separated, immediately had the custody of the two girls, who at the time were 3 years old, the eldest, and 18 months old the youngest. "We always hear the same stories", he repeats on the phone, with that anger that rises when thinking about that day, the anger of those who cannot and do not want to resign themselves. "The story begins and ends like all the others: he wanted to return but these people don't like to be rejected, these men feel they are the masters of the woman, the owners of the children and absolutely do not accept any no", she says. What hurts the most, Vittoria explains to ANSA, is "thinking about what my daughter suffered in the six months preceding her death: stalking. It was a horrible thing. She was terrified.He made calls and sent continuous messages, even at night "and then" we were always close to home "despite the complaints.
"There have been complaints, they should also have gone to the judge to establish the custody of the children" but that hearing for custody, however, never took place because 10 days earlier "he killed her". A man who did not agree to no longer decide on the life of his ex-partner and that of his daughters. "Men kill women because they believe they are their property", he repeats, also pointing the finger at a system that does not work: "The crime of stalking must be really punished, not as they do now with expulsion. Denouncing sometimes serves to make them angry as happened to him. Of course we have to do it but I think the institutions must understand that they are serious things. That we are not playing, that we are not saying it because we want to 'do'the victims because we women are victims, predestined victims ". Yes, predestined victims repeats:" My daughter knew what would happen. Unfortunately, perhaps I had underestimated the problem a little because when she said to me 'she will kill me', I did not believe it. I repeated: 'but imagine if he will be capable of such an action', instead it was all premeditated, and he did it "." Do you think that she took out life insurance only a few days before her death. "Now Vittoria goes go on, because he has two little girls to think about: "I try to be strong. I am proud of myself because I have two wonderful little girls. Let's say that I am fulfilling my task ", she repeats. For her granddaughters who do not yet know what really happened to their mother, what and who took her away and why"she flew to heaven ", Ms. Vittoria has clear ideas about what to do:" What can we do to make these children strong? I personally have chosen culture and knowledge ". Certainly some help to orphaned children of femicide is also given by some instructions" like the Lazio Region "says Vittoria.
Today, for example, in the presence of the ISMA President Enrico Gasbarra and the regional councilor Michela Di Biase, a new call was presented which will allocate 50 scholarships to
orphans of femicide in Lazio.
But what really needs to be done: "It is to radically change society, but how?"
you ask.
"This society is in the hands of men and that is why we should change it".
"What would I say to girls who suffer any kind of violence? Run away. Run away, because if you go and report the police, they don't have the elements to help you, they don't have them. They don't have the 'weapons'. I initially proposed to my daughter to go away but she said: she'll find me anyway. So I say: run away while you have time ", she concludes.
