This is what you need to be a good parent during this time

As parents, we learn at a fairly early stage to deal with quite a few difficulties, but when it comes to uncertainty - even the best and most experienced parents get out of balance.

So how do you deal with such a crazy period and where do you mobilize more forces?

Dorit Hermon

28/01/2022

Friday, 28 January 2022, 07:12 Updated: 07:34

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Uncertainty accompanies the lives of us all all the time.

But if until two years ago the uncertainty could have been contained, now (and especially in recent weeks) it seems that the uncertainty is intense in our parents' lives, and with it there is also great apprehension and even anxiety.

There are several reasons for this.

First, the fear of isolation.

There is nothing more stressful for parents than the announcement that the child has been exposed to a corona patient and now it is possible that the whole routine will change in an instant, and this is of course joined by the fear that the child will get sick and suffer.

When there are so many patients around, this uncertainty increases, due to the feeling that it is closer than ever, and then a fear is created that produces pressure.

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The second reason for parents' growing anxiety is their children's education.

For two years now, our children have been in unstable educational settings, and the fear of learning gaps on the one hand, and the emotional and mental costs on the other, has been increasing day by day.

The third reason is our livelihood - we work for our livelihood as employees or self-employed, and the situation creates a lot of uncertainty about the continuation especially when we are again in isolation, have to leave work to take the child for examination, or God forbid sick and then it means lost work days.

It's stressful, objective.

A child holds an antigen test (Photo: ShutterStock, Rades)

There are 5 ways to deal with this uncertainty.

What's your way?

As human beings we have several ways of coping during this period:

1. to keep tight in everything that has certainty so as not to lose control and try to plan and manage reality so that we have maximum certainty

2. to constantly worry about tomorrow and drive ourselves crazy, usually negative, amplifying thoughts The anxiety

3. Think positive - "Think good will be good", believing that thought creates reality

4. Prepare for the worst and live by the phrase "What can go wrong will go wrong"

5. Repress, live the day without thinking about the future

All these ways work for us to some extent Certain, but they are not always effective and mostly do not bring us peace of mind, because we are constantly stressed by what will happen tomorrow, and because we can not really control the situation in any of the ways.

So what can be done?

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This is your way of dealing with a time of uncertainty -

check how you behave automatically when this is the case, and certainly when it lasts for a long time.

I for one have discovered that the fifth way is through my automatic coping and in times of uncertainty I live in a kind of repression.

If the way you conduct yourself works for you and allows you relative calm, keep going.

we live in a state of uncertainty, and we must accept it.

There is something in this ability to accept the situation and understand that it is the reality that makes it easier for us, because we stop trying and fighting what is out of our control.

This does not mean that we will sit and do nothing, but that we will see where we can do and where we will make an impact.

For example, we do not have the ability to control the fact that there is a rapidly expanding corona omicron strain, but we do have the ability to take care of our children more, wear a mask, walk around less crowded places and try to reduce the chance of getting sick, and also explain to children that there may be changes or They will have to be isolated - and everything will be fine.

Explain to the children that there may be changes or that they will have to be in isolation - and that everything will be fine.

Girl looking out the window (Photo: ShutterStock)

Look for the certainty -

check where in your life there is certainty at the moment, and for what you can say thank you. The ability to see the good we have in life, and also the places where there is certainty, produces calm. Studies show that this ability improves well-being and resilience by 30 percent. This understanding that there are indeed islands of certainty can give us confidence, a sense of control over certain parts of our lives and produce calm. Children can also be helped to see where there is certainty in their lives to reassure them, and to show them that even though they are in an experience that everything is turning upside down there are things that remain constant.

It is important to maintain a routine within the uncertainty, and at the same time understand that it will not be possible to continue with the same routine if all the members of the household are in isolation or some of them are sick in Corona.

It is important to decide in advance, on what and where to maintain a routine and where to release, with the understanding that even the places where one releases should be as consistent as possible.

For example, we decided that if the children in isolation have more screen time than usual, you decide in advance how long so that you do not find yourself constantly having to decide again, it is exhausting, tiring and mostly spoils the relationship.

I love working with a family planning chart that makes order for kids, parents and allows for certainty.

- Try to prepare for situations of uncertainty and think of ways of conduct that will make the situation easier for you.

For example, if you understand that there is a chance that the child will go into isolation, you will decide in advance who will stay with him, where he will be, what this means in terms of your work, how you intend to manage the subject of studies, etc.

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