Why do men wake up with an erection?
The lies that told us about sex
An expert in sex and relationships claims that "morning erection" does not indicate sexual desire, sexually transmitted diseases are not always felt or visible and sex really does not have to end in orgasm.
Here are some known myths about sex that it's time to shatter
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05/02/2022
Saturday, 05 February 2022, 23:49 Updated: Sunday, 06 February 2022, 10:35
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Why do men have a sudden erection?
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Sex and sexuality is a topic that has a lot of myths about it, mainly because every time a new study comes out that confirms or refutes things we were sure of.
Sex and relationships expert Kate Moyle argues that there are seven common and erroneous myths about sex that she very much wants to put an end to.
In conversation with the British Sun she refuted the misconceptions about orgasm, erection, full sex, sex toys, sexually transmitted diseases, contraception and flirting.
So does a morning erection indicate sexual desire?
Is sex without penetration not considered sex?
And what are the chances that we will be sold on our sex toys until we see them as a substitute for the real thing?
Here are some things to keep in mind.
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Morning erection indicates a high sexual desire - a lie
Why do men wake up with an erection?
Kate Moyle argues that a man who wakes up in the morning with an erect penis - does not necessarily indicate that he is in the business of morning sex.
However, she says, a morning erection simply indicates a normal state of health.
"It's pretty normal for a man to wake up with a morning erection and it's actually a good sign," she explained, "nocturnal penis growth (NPT) does not mean a man woke up with a sexual desire or had an erotic dream (although sometimes this can be the case). Healthy blood and normal activity of the nervous system. "
Men can experience 3 to 5 erections each night, with the one most likely to be the one to wake up with.
Kate suggests that men keep an eye on their morning erections, as if these suddenly disappear - it would be worthwhile to visit the family doctor for an examination.
"If these morning erections stop suddenly, it could be an indication of a problematic health condition and you should discuss it with your doctor."
If the morning erection disappears - see a doctor (Photo: Giphy)
If you or your partner have a venereal disease, you will definitely know about it - a lie
Kate refuted the myth that says you should not undergo periodic checkups for STDs as long as there are no symptoms.
According to her, not all sexually transmitted diseases are overt or symptomatic.
She told the Sun: "Anyone who has unprotected sex - not just full sex but other forms of sex like oral sex - can catch a sexually transmitted disease. Some sexually transmitted diseases are asymptomatic so a periodic check-up is recommended."
Kate mentions that it is always important to use contraception, especially if you are having sex with a new partner.
It is always important to use contraception (Photo: Giphy)
Finishing outside does not really work - true
There are many types of contraception including condoms, pills and an intrauterine device - but many rely on the "ejaculate" method (contraction) to prevent pregnancy.
The "finish outside" method is not a reliable enough contraceptive, says Kate - and she is right.
Planned Parenthood reports that 22 out of 100 women each year become pregnant because of the use of the ejaculation method outdoors.
"This is due to the fact that men often do not schedule their ejaculation correctly," she explains, "that is, they are unable to move their penis away from the vagina in time."
In addition, every man during sexual arousal secretes even before the ejaculation itself a clear fluid (PRECOME) that contains semen.
Therefore long before it is finished there is already semen entering the woman's body and pregnancy is possible even if the final ejaculation was outside the vagina.
"If you are trying to avoid pregnancy - use reliable contraception."
If you want to avoid an unexpected pregnancy - do not try to cum outside as a means of contraception (Photo: Giphy, By Shay Mitchell)
Sex must end in orgasm - a lie
"Orgasms can be part of sex and sexual experiences - but they are not a necessity," says Kate.
She explains: "Couples are able to experience pleasure and satisfaction from sex even without orgasm. Focusing or pressure to reach orgasm can actually detract from pleasure, create anxiety and even interrupt the ability to reach orgasm. For some people it can actually lead to dysfunction in sex. Sex becomes goal-directed and we We get to a point where we focus on the goal - or what we think we need to achieve - and not on the experience itself. "
The couple is able to experience pleasure and satisfaction from sex even without orgasm (Photo: gg_2)
Hasty sex is the best sex - inaccurate
Spontaneous sex may be exciting and "hot", but it is no better than planned and routine sex.
Kate argues that Hollywood can be blamed for rushing to the bathroom is a passionate sexual encounter, since that's how they tend to present us with passionate sexual encounters.
She said: "Spontaneous sex gets a lot of hype, mainly because of what we see in movies and series, but also because it's the sex we have more than at the beginning of a relationship, when we explore and try to get to know each other. The reality is that the importance we give to it is much higher. "That is and it reduces the set of sex that may be less spontaneous, more routine or planned, which can be just as enjoyable and passionate."
Hollywood can be blamed for assuming that hurrying is a hot sexual encounter (Photo: Giphy)
If it's not full sex, it's not sex - a lie
When people talk about sex, most of them automatically assume that it is penetration, but Kate argues that nowadays there should be a more open approach to sex, because there are a variety of ways to express it.
"Focusing on pleasure rather than a particular type of sex can open up a world of possibilities for our sex lives, and motivate the narrative to do what feels good to us, instead of doing what we think we should do," she explains.
Penetration - not required (Photo: Giphy)
Massive use of sex toys can create an addiction in you - a lie
"You can not get addicted to your vibrator," Kate says, "like anything in life, we can get used to something, but it's far from addictive.
If you have ever been told that you may be addicted to your sex toys - do not worry, you are not.
She explained: "Sex toys can be a great tool for your sex life, whether you are in a relationship or single. You can not get addicted to sex toys, but may certainly get used to them and have difficulty achieving the same level of pleasure in other ways. It is not exclusive to sex toys. For any type of sex that will make it difficult for you to enjoy other types of sex, so I recommend mixing and experimenting - and not staying in the regular place. "
Kate added: "What happens is that many people come to the conclusion that sex toys are the easiest way to reach orgasm so we start using them by default (many people are also less restrained when they are alone than with a partner) and even this thinking can affect us sexually. "It's hard life about it. Just appreciate all the different ways you can have fun experiences both alone and with your partner and don't settle for one way."
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