Last night (Saturday) we all watched "Wedding at First Sight" in Rinat's dream of finding a relationship, and in the break - the disappointment she could not hide when she saw her intended groom, Daniel.
Rinat knows it's due to her Achilles heel.
She has explicitly said that she chooses the wrong men, that she judges on the basis of appearance and knows she is missing out.
Her girlfriends also say that about her, and also say that about themselves: "We all have a problem that we dismiss outright."
Maybe in the Instagram era we all want to get this beautiful product we see in the picture, only we forget that this picture has undergone some filters.
Must deal.
Rinat,
I fully understand why the experts connected these two, and I write here in black and white that I too would have connected both of them if I were on the team of experts.
On paper they look most appropriate, and each is exactly what the other was looking for.
Both also have a high awareness of who they are, and inhibitions that have prevented them from forming a relationship to this day, and both came to the program to get help in exactly those places where they are weak.
And yet, when emotion has such a large and major part in the decision and during, it is very difficult to say "give it a chance".
It's much easier to get up and go, and keep looking for someone else.
But Rinat is not in the normal position where she can get up and go.
She already knows that because she got up and left in the past she missed, so she came to the show.
This time she is forced to stay, which is a very difficult situation mentally, even if the mind knows it is what needs to be done.
One of the most common mistakes in the initial stages of dating is that we judge on the basis of appearance or initial impression of seven seconds (because this is what studies claim, that initial impression takes only seven seconds).
The truth is, you can not really get to know someone for seven seconds, not even an hour.
On the first date we do not really get to know the one sitting in front of us.
Think about yourself, how many times have you come back from a first date and told yourself that you did not tell everything you wanted, that you talked too much, that you laughed too loudly or alternatively that you did not laugh enough or were not interested in the other side enough?
It is impossible to really express ourselves on a first date, so it is important not to disqualify immediately but to give it a chance, especially if there is a broad common denominator as there is with Rinat and Daniel.
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In "Wedding at First Sight" in the United States, groom Doug sees the bride Jamie running away in a canopy while crying her soul out in front of her friends, telling them she's just not ready to marry the guy they married because he's ugly.
At the end, after calming down a bit, she wiped away the tears, took a deep breath and married him.
Today they are happily married and parents of two.
The first meeting between Shiri and Liran, who were the first couple on the show that survived two years after the wedding, was also tense and Shiri was dubbed "the running bride."
The beginning is difficult when you see someone we are not interested in, but if you give a real chance, you can also succeed.
There are many reasons why they connected with Daniel and Rinat, and she must remember that she promised herself to come with an open heart and give a chance.
Only after she gives a real chance, will she be able to know if Daniel really suits her or not.
The author is Daphne Teller, author of The Practical Guide to Creating a Relationship: "From All My Educational Courts" - All the Secrets You Have Never Been Told to Create a Relationship. Click to follow on Facebook and Instagram
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