Five things that bother mothers before a second birth
It's true that this is not the first time a new baby has come home, but now a completely different coping awaits you from what you know
Daniel Sarantsky, in collaboration with JAMA
17/05/2022
Tuesday, 17 May 2022, 07:22
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There may be things you have already forgotten about from the first birth, but the general picture is familiar to you: intensive care for a small baby, lack of sleep and magic that is reserved for both of you in this special period.
When it comes to a second birth, it's going to be similar but different, familiar but new and full of new challenges.
Here are some of the concerns that are sure to overwhelm you before baby number 2 joins the family:
How will I be able to function as a mother of two without sleeping at night?
Tired and determined.
And seriously, just as you overcame the lack of sleep and care (for the first time) for a tiny baby without really knowing what to expect, so do it this time as well.
The disadvantage is clear - you have two children under your responsibility, but the advantage is also noticeable - you already know how it feels and you have already experienced it.
You may now know better how to organize your time during the day, sleep in every spare moment and not take advantage of the quiet time for other things and yes, also ask for help.
How different will my maternity leave be compared to the first one?
It will most likely be different in two respects: First, this is not the first time you have experienced all sorts of things related to baby care so you will probably be less stressed and react more calmly.
In addition, you have an overall picture of your previous maternity leave, its successes and failures, and you will know how to navigate the second maternity leave wherever you want.
The second, of course, is the fact that there is another child joining the maternity leave, even if it is only from four in the afternoon.
The time with the new baby will be more planned, less spontaneous and you will actually feel like you are on a net maternity leave only until the big one finishes kindergarten.
Of course you can enlist the help of a family or babysitter with one of the children in the shared hours to make it easier for you.
How will I be able to synchronize the hours of sleep of both of them during the day?
Assuming the big one goes to kindergarten, these are mostly weekends.
Many mothers testify that joining a second child into a family no longer changes world orders, but simply accompanies everyone's schedule (rather than the schedule running around them).
Therefore, it may be that the over-strictness of the baby's sleeping hours, as you remember from the first, will no longer be the same and he will adjust himself to the size and schedule of the whole family. Remember that it is temporary and will pass.How
can I prevent the big jealousy attacks?
If there are any, you probably will not be able to prevent them and it is also not worth it.Do not dismiss his feelings but call them by name, along with him, and try to empower him and help him as much as possible (If he is really interested in it.) It is also important to find time only for you and grow up so that he does not feel that the little one has robbed your mother and that he has lost you
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Some horror imposes the harsh evening hours, which include dinner and baths, on new mothers of two.
How do you shower the big one when the little one is just supposed to sleep?
How do you put the little one to sleep when the big one shows no signs of fatigue at all?
And how the hell do you do all this when you're alone at home?
After all, your spouse will not always be with you and this scenario is definitely something that is expected to happen.
The answers to this question are many: you can, again, get help from a babysitter or family members in the success of these hours, or you can just jungle and learn over time how comfortable it is for you to handle the situation.
You may prefer to shower the big one with the little one on the trampoline next to you, shower the little one at noon before the big one returns from kindergarten, or allow some TV time to grow up so you can quietly put the little one to sleep.
You choose, you decide, and you will know what suits you with time.
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All the content in the app "grows" together with the baby and is precisely adapted to its developmental stages, so that the mothers receive only what is relevant to them and interests them at any given moment.
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