Miss Figaro. – You publish
Learning to Make Love.
Why did you write this book, which sounds like a plea?
Alexander Lacroix.
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Firstly because I noticed an impoverishment of sex.
While being increasingly easy to access – especially through porn or apps – it has become of lower quality.
Sexologists have also noticed a change in their clientele.
After men over 60 who consulted because they had physical difficulties, they saw couples aged 25 to 35 arrive, who said to them: "We get along well, we share a lot of activities together. , but we don’t make love anymore.”
In particular because they consumed too much before and became jaded early on.
I think we have to go back from a consumerist regime to an aesthetic regime of love!
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You advise us to take the time to think about our actions, our habits, time that we hardly take in truth…
Yes, the time of love is a time torn from social time and which does not belong to it.
In working time, I can say to a colleague: “We see each other at 5 p.m., but I should leave at 5:30 p.m.”
When we plan to make love with someone, we don't write it down anywhere.
It's not on the to do list!
That's good, because getting rid of this pressure from the world of work or the social world means allowing a creative moment where you improvise, where you go by feeling.
When we reduce the time devoted to sex, it is because we do not take much pleasure in it
Alexandre Lacroix, philosopher
Aren't you worried about how little time couples give to love?
I believe that when we reduce the time devoted to sex, it is because we do not take much pleasure in it… If we make it a task like any other – with an obligation of performance and orgasm –, it becomes a chore, and even, often, the last in the list of chores, because it is not obligatory.
You have to make it a moment of beauty, just like going to a concert or walking in the forest, a great moment of aesthetic pleasure in life... People are never tired of having aesthetic pleasure!
Learning to make love,
by Alexandre Lacroix, Éditions Allary, 224 p., €18.90.