"Wedding at First Sight" once again produces upheavals: Suddenly, Ben is undecided.
Suddenly he is not entirely sure that he is even attracted to the spring.
Suddenly he remembers that she's not really his tape-cast.
Suddenly he remembers that she is "fat" and he likes to lose weight.
So how does he get out of this?
When he says "I am drawn to your inwardness and not to outwardness."
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But wait, since when are you attracted to someone in parts?
Either you are attracted or you are not.
Either you like it or you do not.
And what is this comparison for: you are more attracted to me than I am to you (from the physical component, yes?).
We are in the competition stage Who has bigger?
So here's the obvious answer for anyone who knows in his head and is not emotionally involved: everything is scribbling and scribbling.
We've already realized that Ben knows how to speak sensitively and aptly and slip away from a ball or two, so that's what he's trying to do now.
He is not really attracted to the spring as he wants or dreams of being attracted to his partner (and here is the place to say that a desire for this kind of attraction is the most legitimate in the world).
So he invents: I am not attracted externally but only internally, you are attracted to me more than I am to you, I am afraid to take responsibility for the hearts of all the people around, I do not want to hurt ... well, really.
When we are in love we run over everyone without seeing from a shower, so that it does not confuse our minds.
But she asked you in advance!
Maayan and Ben, Photo: From the series
Bottom line - he has fun with Maayan, he's nice to her, he's also attracted to her a bit, and they make a living.
She is a pretty successful partner for him on this journey, and so far has brought out beautiful sides of him that have been received most of the time in a positive way on screen.
But from here to a real relationship?
You made him laugh!
A month after the cameras go off he will no longer be there.
And a spring?
My heart is with her.
It is very hurtful to feel that whoever you are with for a whole month, and that you thought your relationship was on the right wave, opens his heart to you and tells you that he is not really attracted to you.
Remember that question she asked him on their honeymoon "What did you think / feel the first second you saw me?"
So now she got the real answer she was so afraid of.
Because there is probably a limit to Ben's how much he can continue with the show.
At first, when he spoke to her so beautifully and assured her that he was so attracted to her because he put his opinions and thoughts aside (regarding the tape-cast), he was in "hi" from the wedding, from the beginning of the journey, the magical honeymoon and the fragrant illusion that all participants "Wrapped in it, so he said what he knew the whole world would expect to hear from him - and maybe even what he felt at that moment.
But over time the show - which may have to last - can not really survive.
Because when your partner is as total as a spring, who has given her all in this relationship, you can not survive long if you are not really there: the enthusiasm goes down, the illusion dissipates, and you stay with yourself and with that which is not exactly your tape cast.
Every day it gets a little worse, until one morning you just can not contain it anymore.
This phenomenon also occurs in the real life of each and every one of us, even if we are not participating in a "wedding".
Starting a relationship, there is enthusiasm, and after a month suddenly one of the parties announces that he actually lives far away and travels hard, that he is single and you already have children, that he actually loves blondes and brunettes, that bothers him that you are something like this and not another, that he is not built for a relationship. Creative.
Big crisis in relationships.
Maayan and Ben, Photo: From the program
why is it happening?
Why is it only after I have opened up emotionally and given of myself that he suddenly changes his mind (or she changes her mind)?
After all, he knew everything from the beginning.
If he did not suit him before, why did he enter into this relationship in the first place?
The answer is that there are people who do not know how they will feel when they are in a relationship.
They see something they like in one way or another and decide to flow.
They do not plan, do not calculate a route in advance, do not anticipate what will develop or happen but simply flow until the flow is no longer possible, and then they stop to think and discover that in fact this is not exactly what they planned.
And the other side was hit.
Like a spring.
I remember Daniel, after Sharinat told him he was not her tape-cast, who said, "So what if she's not attracted to me? It does not mean anything to me."
He was not offended as Maayan was offended.
It just seemed to pass him by.
But Maayan was very hurt, and rightly so.
First of all, she felt a little cheated.
For a month she is with a son who gives her the feeling that he is most interested in her, and suddenly everything turns upside down on her.
Second thing, they talked about it.
She asked him and he answered her in the most explicit way that he was attracted to her as much as possible, and so suddenly he says to her: "Ah ... actually not exactly ...".
And third thing, with Daniel and Rinat nothing started.
Rinat immediately said it was not and there it stopped.
At Maayan, the situation is different.
Maayan is already emotionally involved.
Maybe this is the place to appreciate Rinat for her sincerity and openness, even if sometimes it came out a little crooked to her.
At the end of the episode, it seems that Ben managed to give Maayan the confidence and reassure her that he is there and stays.
They seem to have made it through the storm, but I can not help but say to myself: yes, he promised to stay, for now, but will he stay even at the end of the 42 days, after the cameras go off?
After all, attraction is the most critical thing in a relationship, and I find it hard to believe that he will be willing to compromise on it in the long run.
If I have to gamble - I bet not.
And I put all my money on this bet.
What about you?
The author is the author of the Practical Guide to Creating Relationships: "From All My Educational Courts," and helps women create relationships. For follow-up: on Facebook and Instagram
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