Difficult in the morning?
The steps for a successful farewell to the little ones going to kindergarten
Do you feel that it is difficult for the baby to say goodbye and let go at the entrance to the kindergarten?
That way you will do it in a way that is right for both them and you
Daniel Saranetsky, in collaboration with JAMA
04/09/2022
Sunday, 04 September 2022, 07:22 Updated: 07:26
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The child's difficulty saying goodbye to him in kindergarten in the morning also affects you.
You feel that you are abandoning the child when he calls you and cries, and want to wrap him on one side, but not to keep the difficulty of parting on the other side.
Even if it seems impossible, there is a way to ease the difficult situation (for both of you) and make the separation pleasant and good.
So how do you define a breakup as "successful"?
How should you behave even when you see that the child has a hard time saying goodbye?
Liraz Sana Or
, an Adler Institute certified parenting instructor, has prepared for you 6 excellent steps for a proper separation:
1. Trust the child that he has the ability to separate afterwards and adapt to the framework
even if it seems to you that he is having difficulty with the separation, be sure that he is able to deal with the separation afterwards and adapt to the framework.
Some children take longer, but they can all do it.
2. Give a short notice before you go
Before I intend to go, state your intentions.
You can say: "We'll draw another picture together and then we'll say goodbye", or "I'll give you a kiss and a hug and then I'll go".
This statement of intentions will prepare the child for what comes next and instill in him confidence about the future.
3. Define times and keep your word
"Mom will come to pick you up at noon", "Dad will come to pick you up at 4:00 PM" - these are time definitions that the child can understand, and you must keep your word, of course.
The child will have an expectation and confidence that you will indeed keep your promise.
4. Do they exude determination despite the difficulty
, does the child find it difficult to say goodbye?
True, it is not easy for you to get up and leave to the sound of his cries, but it is important that you project confidence and be decisive.
If you are hesitant, the child will feel that you are also difficult and the situation will be more difficult for him.
As soon as you decide to part, sensitively but firmly, part and leave the garden.
5. Don't disappear behind your back
Do not think that if you run away to the child when he is not paying attention, he will not feel separated afterwards.
Even if the parting involves heartbreaking crying, it is better for the child to know that you intend to leave (see section 2) and to be able to anticipate what comes next.
Don't sneak up behind his back and do the parting with complete transparency.
6. Don't come back to "peek"
you broke up?
did you go out
Don't come back "just to check" what's going on with the child.
He may see you and this will make it more difficult for him, and convey to him the message that you do not trust him to handle the situation.
Give credit to your little ones.
They are heroes and they will manage to overcome the breakup after that, even if sometimes it seems like a heartbreaking task.
A day will come and they will simply wave at you without looking at you, and you will be filled with pride and maybe even a little nostalgia for this period.
A mother hugging her son (Photo: ShutterStock)
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