You may be in the habit of never rejoicing in your successes, of taking (too) little time to take care of yourself or of putting aside your emotions.
It is self-sabotage, according to Nawal Mustafa, Canadian and doctoral student in neuropsychology, or this annoying tendency that some have to put a spoke in the wheels.
The specialist, through her Instagram account "the braincoach", popularizes cognitive psychology and delivers her advice on mental health to her 1.1 million subscribers.
In a post on Thursday, September 8, she shares seven of the most common signs of self-sabotage.
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Seven unmistakable signs
According to Nawal Mustafa, self-sabotage brings together all the actions that prevent us from achieving our goals.
"We persuade ourselves that we don't really want these things (
these objectives, editor's note
) which (we know it deep down) would nevertheless be beneficial to us", she describes in the caption of her post.
The specialist lists seven unmistakable signs: “Having limiting beliefs that control our choices and decisions, not stepping out of your comfort zone (even when you want to), not keeping our self-promises, and putting side of what matters to us”, lists the doctoral student.
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In terms of relationships with others, the doctoral student in neuropsychology also informs that the person trapped in self-sabotage generally shoots themselves in the foot by "not communicating their feelings and expectations to others, or by remaining in a relationship that no longer corresponds to [him], even which is bad for [his] mental health”.
Finally, "working until burnout, and finding excuses to continue a bad habit when we know it is not beneficial to us", are two other signs that should alert.
These behaviors lead to many self-criticisms, lower self-esteem and prevent fulfillment.
In a previous post in February, the doctoral student gave ways to get out of self-sabotage.
"Set easy-to-achieve goals, work on your negative thoughts, and develop self-compassion," she suggested.