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"No, it's nothing!" - Recognize passive-aggressive behavior

2022-10-25T18:38:44.677Z


"No, it's nothing!" - This is how you deal with passive-aggressive people Created: 10/25/2022, 8:30 p.m By: Juliane Gutmann A problem is best solved when the parties discuss it objectively. Passive-aggressive people have a problem with that. No matter whether they need harmony or are argumentative: everyone has their own strategy for dealing with problems and grief. One of the healthiest metho


"No, it's nothing!" - This is how you deal with passive-aggressive people

Created: 10/25/2022, 8:30 p.m

By: Juliane Gutmann

A problem is best solved when the parties discuss it objectively.

Passive-aggressive people have a problem with that.

No matter whether they need harmony or are argumentative: everyone has their own strategy for dealing with problems and grief.

One of the healthiest methods: Addressing the problem openly, staying calm and objective and not blaming the other person.

Those who use I-messages such as "I feel neglected" make it easier for the other person to empathize with the other person.

Anyone who knows a passive-aggressive person - or maybe even is in a relationship with one - knows: arguments can also be very toxic and spoil the entire week.

Because passive-aggressive people do not openly address their problems, but show their frustration and anger in other ways.

Typical reactions are sarcasm, snappy comments and deliberately ignoring others.

Passive-aggressive behavior makes it difficult for the partner to constructively seek solutions to a disputed issue.

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How do I recognize passive-aggressive behavior?

According to the Deutsche Apotheker Zeitung (DAZ)

, the facets of passive-aggressive behavior are

diverse.

The following behaviors are possible:

  • Pseudohumor

    : In this case, a hurtful sentence is followed by a saying such as "Just kidding" or "I didn't mean that at all".

  • Silence

    : Ignoring the other is meant to show that he or she has done something wrong.

    It's supposed to act like some kind of punishment.

    The preliminary stage of this type of demonstration of power is the reduction of eye contact and avoidance of conversations, according to the

    DAZ

    .

  • Feigning misunderstandings

    : Here, an instruction or an agreement is deliberately misunderstood.

    The goal of the passive-aggressive person is to prevent the other person from being happy or experiencing success.

  • Boycotting the Efforts or Work of Others

    : Passive-aggressive individuals accomplish this by, among other things, working slowly and sloppily, being unpunctual, and persistently resisting.

  • Sending conflicting signals

    : Although it is clear that the passive-aggressive part does not agree or is upset about something, he or she responds with phrases such as "No, it's nothing" when asked.

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My partner is passive-aggressive: What's the best way to behave?

As the journal

Psychology Today

reports, research has never been entirely unanimous as to whether passive-aggressive behavior should be counted as a personality disorder.

The 

American Psychiatric Association has removed it from its current classification list, but the

World Health Organization

 's ICD system

still lists it under "other specific disorders," it said.

Mental Illness Survey

A few rules of conduct can make everyday life with passive-aggressive people easier.

For example, social worker Jody E. Long and her co-authors in the book 

The Angry Smile

advise not to let the other person provoke you.

Because if you react with the anger that the other doesn't dare to show, you support the other in his behavior, as

Psychology Today

informs.

Eric Barker, author of career guides, advises

Psychology Today

to prepare well for important conversations with passive-aggressive people.

Barker advises uncovering the other person's tactics, i.e. addressing them openly.

Also, no excuses should be accepted, only actions.

Clear announcements and demanding clear answers are also helpful when dealing with passive-aggressive people, as is striving for a win-win situation.

Source: merkur

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