This year you will not make good resolutions.
No, you won't work out three times a week, you won't swap your favorite tub of ice cream for green beans to munch on in front of the TV, and, no, you won't stop procrastinating.
In any case, not overnight.
For the first time at the beginning of the year, you will relegate your good resolutions to oblivion and bring out your new secret weapon: objectives.
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Resolutions and goals: what's the difference?
By nature, a good resolution exists to alleviate a problem.
You smoke ?
Good resolution: you stop.
Do you eat too much fat?
Good resolution: exit the aperitif biscuits.
Only here, just one tiny misdemeanor leads you to damnation, this dark place where guilt sweeps you away like a tsunami.
Example: at a dinner with friends, you say no to chips three times in a row.
At the fourth, you crack.
Result: on January 10, you surrender, defeated by a handful of Chipsters.
On the other hand, if you choose an objective, that is to say a goal towards which to strive without completely modifying daily life, you will stay the course.
Illustration: you decide to eat more balanced, but last night as an aperitif, the mini-pizzas caught your eye with success.
you will make up for it at the next meal.
The objective and the honor remain safe.
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Savor the journey rather than the goal
If you focus only on achieving your goal, you are missing an important point: enjoying life day by day.
Example: Your goal is to get a promotion this year.
Are you going to put your family and friends aside and give up your passions?
If this is the case, you will upset your balance or not achieve your goal.
By advancing step by step, you take advantage of each small victory, savor each advance and enjoy the journey, your family, your friends, your passions, even if it means waiting a few more weeks.
Change measurement scale
Good resolutions are binary.
Their scoring system is necessarily Manichean: either you pass them or you fail.
Except that it is very simplistic to live a situation in “failure” or “success”.
A bit like for grades at school, go from 1 to 20 instead (congratulations from the class council as an option), and thus, eliminate guilt.
Maybe you didn't get there, but you made progress.
Your objective is therefore closer than it was at the start.
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Stop forcing yourself
Rather than constantly surpassing yourself, what if you put yourself in a position of success?
Take two minutes and zoom out.
Does your lifestyle really allow you to start salsa dancing, tap dancing and stand up at the same time?
Wouldn't it be more reasonable to set yourself an activity of one hour a week?
The external constraints are already severe enough to add additional pressure.
Throw away your calendar
Progressing in a discipline, whether in sports, budget management or improving relationships, takes time.
The steps to success are many and unpredictable.
Sometimes we stagnate, sometimes we advance in leaps and bounds.
Forget your agenda and its arbitrary divisions.
Focus on your feelings.
Are you proud to have made progress?
Now is the time to write them down and take stock.
And too bad if it does not fall on a famous December 31st.
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