What are the divorce procedures?
How many years does it take for a divorce
?
What does the spouse have in the event of a divorce?
What happens if one spouse does not want to divorce?
These are some of the most typed questions on Google: Among all "How to start a divorce" was typed online 52.38% more in January 2023 than the average for the rest of the year.
Gone loves, broken couples, quarrels, cold wars and family dramas.
Who will take care of the dog or cat?
Everything becomes a subject of very strong unease, with a peak in the first month of the year, January which seems to be the month in which couples 'break out' the most and stress skyrockets.
It is no coincidence that
"Divorce Monday
", the Monday of divorce, falls all over the world in January (the first or third Monday of the month, according to marriage professionals because they are crowded with separation proceedings) and marks the moment when most couples break up, giving beginning of a conscious path that almost always leads to separation and divorce.
“Even if the cases of 'repentant divorce' timidly increase, i.e. reconciliations that are more frequent than one might believe, couples break out and separations and divorces become cold wars, overwhelm dreams of love and life plans, claiming victims direct and collateral, economic damage, emotional and psychological wounds difficult to heal, - underlines Anna Boggi Fasciani, a lawyer with over twenty years of experience in the field of family law, author of the new book 'Coppie Bursted.
How not to get hurt when a marriage ends' (Productions the days of Antigone).
“In Italy, separations and divorces have been steadily increasing since the 1980s, - explains the author. - And they represent
one of the main causes of stress for the people involved
, capable of lastingly compromising serenity and often also health.
If the fateful moment in which the client crosses the threshold of a matrimonial or divorce lawyer's office represents the background, it is only with the famous letter from the professional delivered to the other party that the real drama begins". difficulties that await precisely to face them with a correct approach, without false expectations, and regain as soon as possible the lost well-being and serenity. "A marriage that ends - writes Anna Fasciani in the introduction of the new text - expresses a conflictual context that puts bare the most intimate folds of the life of two perfect strangers; the separation and divorce files contain feelings, happy days, interrupted dreams, disappointment,
“In addition to the decisions protected by the courts, to mitigate trauma and stress there are
purely personal aspects that can be dealt with in the best way by thinking about it in time
, - specifies the expert.
“Like the way of communicating to children the end of marriage, the suffering of grandparents, the tensions between families of origin, being victims and perpetrators of the partner at the same time, the custody of pets.
In addition, the relationship with the ex who, for example, has rebuilt his life.
Furthermore, how to organize, for example, parties that are at high risk of renewing the lacerations of the family fabric, up to the implications of a financial nature that do not fail to have repercussions on the standard of living of the people involved".
Instead, it is dedicated to reconciliations and
repent of the divorce
The new volume 'The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy' by octogenarians (and lifelong couple) John and Julie Gottman is growing.
He is a renowned clinical psychologist, professor emeritus at the University of Washington where he founded the 'Love Lab' laboratory to study couples who love each other for a long time and understand their secrets with the scientific method as well as author of several best sellers on the theme 'couples' ;
she, Julie Schwartz Gottman, is the author and co-creator of a well-known workshop 'The Art and Science of Love', as well as Washington State Psychologist of the Year in 2021 and an award-winning Psychotherapy Networker.
The duo of US researchers in love suggest how to recover a drifting marriage in just 6 days based on thousands of data collected over the years.
The first step?
Those who did get divorced only did so about 30% of the time.
Terrence Real, family therapist and author of the new book "Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship," also believes that in most relationships, there are three stages to love: harmony, disharmony, and repair.
"Yet our culture doesn't provide people with the tools to talk about - or deal with - that expected phase of disharmony or disillusionment. Simply acknowledging it to yourself and your partner can help you," Real says in the American newspaper.
disharmony and repair.
"Yet our culture doesn't provide people with the tools to talk about - or deal with - that expected phase of disharmony or disillusionment. Simply acknowledging it to yourself and your partner can help you," Real says in the American newspaper.
disharmony and repair.
"Yet our culture doesn't give people the tools to talk about - or deal with - that expected phase of disharmony or disillusionment. Simply acknowledging it to yourself and your partner can help you," Real says in the American newspaper.