"The greatest gift a child can receive" (Photo: ShutterStock)
One-on-one time between parent and child is very essential for both the child and the parent.
It contributes to the improvement of the relationship and significantly brings the parties closer.
At what age is it recommended to start and what do we do at that time one on one?
Efrat Leket
, a coaching mother, the author of the book "A Coaching Mother" and a lecturer in Israel and around the world on parenting in the 21st century based on the Montessori method and positive psychology, explains the subject in detail on the occasion of the launch of Tnuva's new content website under the theme "one-on-one time has a special power", which includes a series of enriching lectures, tips and tools for parents.
All lectures offered by Tnuva on the new website will be free of charge, led by the best online experts, including Efrat Leket, Dr. Michal Kidron, Prof. Yoram Yuval and more.
A small taste of the content that can be found on Tnuva's new content site
How important is one-on-one time with the child?
"When done correctly, one-on-one time is the vaccine for almost all children's behaviors, and it is the greatest gift a child can receive. At Mom Coaching, we call it a mother circle and a father circle. In the first year of a new baby's life, we parents are operational very much and respond to their every need - we change their diapers, pick them up when they cry, put them to sleep, feed them and more. All our resources are directed to them. Over the years, when they start to be independent, the separation begins. The child wants to move away and we also have a moment to breathe. But in the age we live in today, with the screens and working around the clock, the child is constantly competing for our attention and you could see this even during the Corona period. Heart?'. The point is that the children did not feel that we were really with them, even if we were physically there."
Efrat's son tells about one-on-one time from his side
View this post on Instagram
A post shared by • Efrat Leket • Coach mother (@efratleket)
Why did you choose a class name?
"Because this is a fixed time, just like any other class. There is a fixed day and a fixed time. The child knows that every Wednesday, after kindergarten or school, there is a class with father or mother, and they really look forward to it. What is more, it is important that this time is not At home, but outside, in nature. Of course, there is no need for pyrotechnics or to spend a lot of money, but just to be together, in a place you both love."
At what age should you start?
"You can start as soon as the child begins to walk, around the age of two. From the age of two to around the age of five, the child does not need anything, but only that you be with him, accompany him and follow him. Do what he wants, even if he decides to stop on the street and watch an ant in action for Half an hour. This is a completely normal developmental need and all he needs in those moments is for the parent to be with him. At later ages, from the age of 6, you can even sit with the child in a cafe, talk and play a game he likes. At later stages, from the ages of 10-11, The children want to spend more time with friends, and that's when, in adolescence, they need us the most. You can go shopping with them or to a concert together. It's recommended to try and connect with them through their world, for example through musicians they like or different artists. It's important to know that it's never too late to start. Try to find a way to the child's heart in different ways, say words of love and spend time together."
"90 percent of children's behavior problems are solved through one-on-one time" (Photo: ShutterStock)
How does the shared time contribute to the children?
"90 percent of children's behavioral problems are solved through one-on-one time, since most behaviors come from loneliness and lack of positive attention."
Why did Tnuva choose this particular topic this year?
"From my experience, people pay a lot of money for content on the subject, and Tnuva is the first commercial company to make it accessible to the public at no cost, in one centralized place, with the best experts who provide quite a few tools and tips. This move continues this year after it proved itself. I received a lot of responses from people and I feel there is a value connection here."
All the lectures, content and tips can be found here>>
In collaboration with Tnuva
health
parenthood
Tags
yield
