If your husband or boyfriend consistently exhibits childish behavior, you probably have the man-child problem.
It can take on drastic proportions.
Does your partner sometimes act like a 12-year-old?
Not a rare phenomenon.
A lot of men honestly say they basically feel like their underage selves.
"The child in the man" is sometimes so pronounced that it can endanger the relationship.
Because few women feel like taking care of their own partner as if he were a child.
Do you think a healthy partnership should take place on an equal footing?
This is not easy when the boyfriend or husband is constantly occupied with his hobby "model railways" like a child, doesn't lift a finger in the household and serious conversations are almost impossible because in the case he changes the subject immediately or at the slightest criticism like a toddler starts to sulk.
Do you suspect that you have a "man-child" sitting at home?
The following signs speak in favor of this:
He assumes that everything in the household will be cleared away afterwards.
Cooking, cleaning, tidying up - everything depends on you.
From doctor's appointments to holiday planning: without constant reminders and nagging on your part, your "man-child" doesn't do anything at all.
It is usually the woman who creates a to-do list for him.
In short, your partner can't do anything without you.
He regularly plays video games late into the night.
The male child can talk, but it usually fails when it comes to putting it into practice.
According to the Romper.com
portal, he will not keep his plans, break promises and keep disappointing you
.
A "man-child" does not want to take responsibility.
That's why he has a hard time committing, according to
Psychology Today
.
The man-child generally avoids in-depth discussions about the status of your relationship or life goals.
He often drinks beyond his thirst to excess.
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Do you feel like you are taking care of two children – but only have one?
That could be because you married a "man child."
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Pleasure killer "child in man": division of labor in the household influences the woman's libido
For most women, the idea of mothering a man-child is not a pretty one.
Especially in the household, there is often a gap.
Namely when the man expects the woman to do more.
A Canadian-Australian team of researchers found that it can have a huge impact on women's libido.
The survey of around 1,000 women worldwide revealed that there is a possible connection between perceived dependency and a woman's sexual desire.
The result of the study: If the woman takes on more household chores than the man, the likelihood was higher that she perceived him as dependent.
As a result, the woman's desire for her partner decreased, according to the researchers.
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"Man-Child" jeopardizes relationships?
What you can do
As in so many cases, open communication is an important solution.
Affected women should tell their partner openly and honestly that his behavior endangers the relationship.
The most important thing is that they state exactly why.
The constant moving around the house with his boys, sitting all night long in front of the game console or the lack of help around the house.
Name your problem as precisely as possible and look for solutions together.
Only one instead of three "gambled through" nights per month can already be a start.
Couples therapy can also promise success if other efforts are unsuccessful.
This article only contains general information on the respective health topic and is therefore not intended for self-diagnosis, treatment or medication. In no way does it replace a visit to the doctor. Unfortunately, our editors are not allowed to answer individual questions about clinical pictures.
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