Five books to read after a breakup or divorce

Separation or even divorce is a great emotional burden for everyone involved.

These books can help to manage the situation.

After the year of separation comes the date of divorce for many.

Even if the negotiation is sometimes over after a few minutes, you only realize afterwards what this step entails for you and the children who may be affected.

How do I deal with the topic towards the children?

How do I behave towards my ex-partner?

These five books provide many answers to important questions that can help with a separation and divorce.

Jos Willems, Brigit Appeldoorn, Maaike Goyens "Separated as a couple - as parents together"

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When parents separate, it is often the children who suffer the most.

In many cases, the intensive relationship with one parent is lost, and children need a trusting bond with both parents, even during and after a separation.

But how can this be achieved – practically and emotionally?

blurb / Patmos

Jos Willems, Brigit Appeldoorn, Maaike Goyens "Separated as a couple - together as parents"

3rd edition 2021, Patmos ISBN-13 978-3-8436-0573-1

Price: bound €20, 240 pages (deviating from the format)

Remo H. Largo, Monika Czernin "Happy Children of Divorce"

All parents who separate understandably fear that their children will suffer as a result.

The pediatrician Remo Largo, whose books on development, upbringing and school have been of great help to parents for many years, and the author and mediator Monika Czernin describe a liberating and at the same time responsible way in which parents take care of their children during and after the separation can.

Blurb / Piper

It is perhaps the greatest challenge after a divorce: how can mom and dad be fair to the children and together give their children the support they need most?

The focus of this book, which is unreservedly recommended to all parents who are separating or divorced, is on “non-cancellable parenthood”.

Remo H. Largo, Monika Czernin "Happy Children of Divorce"

What children need after separation

2015 Piper, ISBN-13 978-3-492-30498-6

Price: paperback 16 €, 352 pages

Sigrid Born-Berg, Nicole Würth "Divorce for Dummies"

The lawyers Sigrid Born and Nicole Würth accompany you through the time of separation.

They explain the complicated family law in a way that is easy to understand.

They explain how mediators can save you time, money and grueling arguments, prepare you to consult a lawyer and show how much a divorce costs.

Blurb / Wiley VCH

The book is a guide for anyone who has to deal with the most important questions about divorce and separation.

Who gets how much of the household effects, how to talk to the children about the topic and how to avoid legal pitfalls.

Ramona Jakob "When the dream of a family bursts: A book of encouragement for separation and divorce"

When the dream of a family bursts, those affected are emotionally overwhelmed and at the same time have to rearrange life without a partner and settle very practical things.

Ramona Jakob gives concrete tips on how to deal with this difficult situation.

Many examples give courage to deal with a separation constructively and to emerge stronger from it.

blurb / Kösel

The book was published a long time ago, but is still a treasure trove on the subject of separation and divorce.

Concrete tips round off the book, which is well worth reading.

Ramona Jakob "When the dream of a family bursts: A book of encouragement for separation and divorce"

2012 Kösel, ISBN-13 978-3-46630-923-8

Price: currently only available used, 192 pages

Books for children of separation

Unfortunately, the youngest suffer the most from separation and divorce.

Bringing the topic up again and again is the be-all and end-all in order to master this difficult situation.

For children of separation there is one or the other book that deals with this topic in a sensitive way.

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Ilona Einwohlt "Zicke, Zacke, Trennkacke"

When parents separate, it's not easy for children.

This book is intended to help you through this complicated phase.

Here children find space for their feelings, numerous exercises, texts and tips.

And other children who are in the same situation report how they got through it.

The innovative book is a mixture of entry book, scribble and diary, coaching book and guidebook about rights and conflicts, about feelings and secrets.

To participate and encourage.

Blurb / Carlsen

There could hardly have been a better title for such a book for children and young people.

Because it says what separation or divorce means for the children in the family.

The review for "Zicke, Zacke, Trennkacke" is available here.

The most expensive books in the world: works worth millions

The most expensive books in the world: works worth millions

Ilona Einwohlt "Zicke Zacke Trennkacke"

With illustrations by Regina Kehn

2022, Carlsen ISBN-13 978-3-551-25068-1

From 8 years

Price: Hardcover 15 €, 160 pages

Judith Zacharias-Hellwig "The Longing of Little Orange"

Little Orange lives happily with his parents, Mom Red and Dad Yellow, until the day his mom tells him that his dad will soon be living in another apartment as the parents are separating.

The house changes when the father moves out.

The little orange longs for him so much that it no longer shines orange, but turns red, he is missing papa yellow ...

Cover text / paper eater MTM-Verlag

With the heavily illustrated picture book, family therapist Judith Zacharias-Hellwig explains this difficult topic to the little ones.

Using colors, she shows how the mood and family relationships are changing.

Judith Zacharias-Hellwig "The Longing of Little Orange"

What children need when parents separate

2018 Papierfresserchens MTM-Verlag, ISBN-13

Price: bound €10

Those who are more interested in the topic of "mental health" will find what they are looking for in these book recommendations.

We have also put together seven guides for fathers here.

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