Crafts, medicine, finance - it's always good to know someone who is professionally at home in these areas.
But when will you be taken advantage of?
Who knows who?
This is not only useful for your own professional advancement and networking, but can also be helpful in all other situations in life.
So-called vitamin B not only helps to get a new job, but also when you need the services of craftsmen and women, for example.
If you have someone in your close circle of acquaintances, you sometimes rightly hope for advantages.
However, if you are in the position that is in high demand, you may be taken advantage of.
At work in general, but also in private life.
Four tips on how to stop this.
How to stop being taken advantage of: Are you too nice?
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Do you have more and more tasks?
You may be too nice.
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Are you always nice and always manage everything?
It sounds totally uncomplicated at first - it is, but only for your employer.
If you are too nice and don't stand up for yourself and your needs, you will quickly be taken advantage of.
The career advisor Martin Wehrle informs in a guest article in the
mirror
that the nice colleague is competent, but earns around 20 percent less than other employees.
One reason is that the nice person never approached the employer with demands.
This is also accompanied by the next problem: lack of promotion.
Anyone who makes no demands and otherwise never attracts attention with their own opinion will not be considered for promotions.
One reason could be a lack of authority.
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Disadvantages of "being nice"
more work
Often less salary
Hardly any promotion
Higher risk of suffering burnout
Keep putting your point of view aside;
other is always more important
Sources: Spiegel, Stern;
Status: 03/13/2023
With this body language, the job interview goes wrong
With this body language, the job interview goes wrong
By the way: Look for people who are completely different from yourself. This will make you better at work.
Are you being taken advantage of?
Adjusters to work on
Learn to say 'no'.
Whenever you refuse a task, practice self-protection and respect your own limits.
This applies to professional and private life.
Your limits can also be reached quickly if you have to do favors for family or friends again and again.
If you always want to do everything and be supposed to be nice, show that you put your own interests second.
The portal
career bible
writes that people who handle it like that would confuse niceness with naivety.
This would then be shamelessly exploited by other people.
Don't make every task that colleagues want you to your problem.
Articulate your needs: See that you also have needs and make them clear to those around you.
It is not about all your sensitivities being taken into account, this is not the case with colleagues either.
Don't make yourself smaller than those around you - if colleagues demand your needs, you can too.
A compromise can then be sought.
Don't buckle: Standing up for yourself takes spine.
So if you have an opinion or are convinced of something, there may be a contradiction.
This is completely normal.
Don't let that intimidate you, show attitude, but don't be narrow-minded and own up to it when you make a mistake.
Endure conflicts: Even if you are more in need of harmony, you should learn to endure conflicts from time to time.
Stick to your opinion if you have valid arguments and don't be afraid if your colleagues don't think you're nice.
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