During life we often collect prejudices about the other side, whether it is men over women or vice versa.
These assumptions, which we are sure are true, may destroy our chances of developing a long-term relationship and partnership.
Instead of gathering truths about the other side, the kind that would allow us to trust women or men, we gather negative opinions that cause us anxiety.
Relationship and sexuality expert Tracy Cox, the associate editor of Cosmopolitan, who has written several books on the subject, describes in an article a series of myths women have about men that she believes destroy their ability to develop a relationship.
"We receive a lot of advice in our lives regarding men, but the vast majority of them are not positive. We hear that men are only looking for sex while women are looking for love, that a woman should not make the first move because she will be considered cheap, that you should find a partner and get married quickly because in old age men will not want you. It makes our view of men negative," she explains.
Negative view of the other side.
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"If you think that 'all a man is interested in is sex,' then you will treat every gesture of a potential partner with suspicion, you will not really trust him. Such a way of looking will not advance you to building a relationship and will only hurt you. Men cheat as soon as they can', then you will stay with a treacherous and abusive partner instead of throwing him away. You will tell yourself that this is how it is and that even if you find another man who might be more suitable, he will also cheat on you, so what does it even matter."
According to her, these myths are completely wrong.
"The two sexes are more similar than we think, and we all look for similar things."
First mistake: Singles are sexual predators
The main argument behind this sentence is that every man will want to have sex in any situation and with any partner.
In relation to this, Cox points out, studies show that only in the UK itself, about 60% of men often refrain from an insinuation or suggestion of sex.
"Many men, like women, are not interested in a relationship based only on sexuality. Dealing with sex raises great anxiety in men, especially at the beginning of the relationship."
Second mistake: the man must initiate and take the first step
One of the ancient and chauvinistic approaches is related to the fact that there is a division of roles between men and women and therefore the role of the man is to start with the woman.
"The problem is that men are often afraid to approach women for various reasons. Maybe he is afraid they will reject him, that she is too beautiful or earns more money. Therefore, this is exactly the woman's place to promote the relationship," explains Cox.
Third mistake: men do not want commitment and a deep connection
The belief that men do not want commitment is an old one and unfortunately many women believe it.
"If this is true, then how does it fit with the fact that many men are married or in a deep relationship?".
A 2019 study found that men experience emotions and seek a deep and emotional connection just like women.
The study also found that men tend to express their feelings earlier and faster than women tend to do.
Fourth mistake: a man will always cheat if he has the opportunity
"Studies show that 80% of men do not cheat on their wives under any circumstances, also 13% of women will have sex with a man who is not their husband, so the absolute majority of men do not cheat at all and the percentage of cheaters of both sexes is getting equal," explains Cox.
According to her, most people who maintain a stable and happy marital system with children, security, love and satisfaction, will not cheat despite the excitement or the desire to diversify.
"Men who love their lives and their wives will not risk their well-being. Women should not show forgiveness for cheating because most men are not like that," says Cox.
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