A failure, a criticism, a breakup... and our self-confidence collapses.
To make it more resistant to the vagaries of life, it is therefore essential to strengthen it.
This is what Nawal Mustafa, a neuropsychologist known as “thebraincoach” on Instagram, explains.
Having self-confidence allows us to “believe in our ability to do difficult things and face challenges,” and “without being paralyzed by doubt,” she wrote in a March 12 publication.
“Self-confidence also allows us to develop a healthier relationship with ourselves and understand that our worth is not determined by the opinions of others.”
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Hence the importance of solidifying it.
To do this, the specialist cites 11 pieces of advice in the form of mantras.
Thebraincoach’s 11 tips
Keep the promises
you make to yourself every day
Take action
despite doubt
Surround ourselves
with people who support and encourage us
Be kind to yourself
when things don't go as planned
To learn
new things
Focus on yourself
instead of comparing yourself to others
Dare
to take up space
Give less importance
to the opinions of others than to our own
Find
what you are good at/what you love doing
Congratulate yourself
on every small victory
Face
challenges
Kindness and self-compassion
“Improving self-confidence requires maintaining a positive self-image, recognizing one's successes and self-compassion,” writes the neuropsychologist in the caption of her post.
This is why she invites us to “keep the promises we make to ourselves, that is to say, to honor the commitments and objectives that we set for our well-being and our growth”.
It is essential that we treat our personal commitments with the same respect that we accord to promises made to others.
For example, by respecting our personal care routines or maintaining healthy habits.
In the same way, the neuropsychologist invites her 1.4 million subscribers to celebrate small victories, and to be kind to yourself when things don't go as planned.
Face challenges
Accomplishing a task that you did not feel capable of significantly strengthens your self-confidence.
The neuropsychologist therefore recommends acting despite our limiting beliefs.
“Take action despite your doubts, agree to learn new things, discover what you are good at,” she encourages.
Before adding: when we take on a challenge, each victory strengthens self-confidence, each defeat teaches us resilience.
The look of the other
You have to give yourself the right to take up space, says Nawal Mustafa.
Because it strengthens self-affirmation and therefore helps to build self-confidence.
To do this, she advises focusing on yourself rather than comparing yourself to others and giving less importance to the opinions of others than to your own.
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Here, those around us are also a precious ally.
The neuroscientist also insists on the need to “surround ourselves with people who support us and who inspire us”.
Shield
Finally, it is essential to become aware of our tastes and desires in order to fulfill them and use them as a lever for action.
Nawal Mustafa invites us to adopt a dynamic of discovery, whether it concerns activities or skills...
This advice aims, as the neuropsychologist explains, “to build a shield against negative thoughts which lead to self-rejection”.
Our perception of ourselves will only be more positive.