To meet or not to meet? This is how you know if it is in your section at all
Going on a date is an investment - get dressed, relax, shave - in an ideal world you wouldn't want to do all this for a man to waste your time. This is how you know if it is in your interest at this stage
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13/11/2019It's no secret that dating apps, with all the benefits of it, are inherently worthy of people who are not worth spending your time on (which is quite delicate). It's very easy to spot if their appearance doesn't match your taste, and it's relatively unproblematic to see if you and the guy have the same interests in common, but after you've already spoken, making sure it's really in your section and not just passing the time is a little trickier.
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How can you tell if someone on the other side is writing to you who really wants you, or just someone you don't really do, but if there is an option for sex he will definitely take advantage of it? This is how you can know that he is really in your section, and that you do not turn on someone who keeps talking to you just out of courtesy.
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If it's in your segment, it will initiate calls, whether in the app, on the phone or on phones (depending on what stage you are in). He won't wait every time you schedule, although it would be very nice if you did. He won't make you wonder for days whether to drug him or not, and when exactly the right time, because he'll just do it himself. Enough to tell yourself excuses or swallow his - he didn't have the time, a long day at work, just friends arrived ... if he's really in your section - he'll find the time to call and make an appointment. If he has not suggested you go out yet, he is not waiting to signal you or make sure you really want to, he is probably just not in your section.
He initiates programs outside the home
A man who really wants you will want to spend time with you outside your home and bed. Therefore, he will arrange meetings outside, and he is likely to be the one to propose and plan the first date - in a public place such as a bar or restaurant. If he really wants to get to know you, and not just come to the apartment to signal you, he'll also make sure the plans are not in the middle of the night, but at a reasonable time, you know, an hour of dating and no sticks. Even if it wants to go to a climbing wall and the lesser section, you can always change (or cancel out because of mismatches), but at least you'll know that it's about you.
If he makes such a face, for example, it's a clue (Photo: Shatterstock)
He is not interested (Photo: ShutterStock)
He behaves consistently
A guy who is really interested in you will always be courting or trying to meet you unless you give him a clear "no" (and there are some that aren't enough for them either, but that's another story already). If he is not really interested in you, it is likely that after a slight hesitation on your part or a schedule mismatch he will simply move on to the next girl. This means that he has no interest in investing and for you is sufficient reason to move on. If he does want to "get" you, he will be willing to make a more serious effort than "wake you up".
When you speak you can be yourself
Whether it's in a message or a phone call, when you're talking to a guy who really wants you, you don't feel like you have to disguise your true character, make an effort, or misrepresent the facts. You feel he can contain who you really are, and accept it. If it's not really about you, you may feel that you need to be better, cooler, more flowing, or come up with hobbies you never had, because you will get wives who judge you, or just a lack of interest when talking about yourself honestly.
He remembers what you talked about
He listens to you, he remembers what you said, and he'll make sure to bring it up in the next calls. It's very easy to feel: if you talk about yourself, he won't let it pass. A guy who really wants something serious will probably respond to what you say, ask more questions, and even raise the topic again in another conversation. For example, if you told him you had a dog, he would suggest you to meet me in the park so you could bring him with you, and probably even remember his name. Needless to say, if he doesn't really want you, then the dog won't be interested, and he probably won't remember you saying you have three hands.
You can already tell by phone call if it's worth spending the time on it (Photo: Shatterstock)
He is not interested (Photo: ShutterStock)
It opens to you
If he is serious about his intentions towards you, he will not only be interested in what you have to say, but will also be happy to share with you his world. He will want to open up to you and tell you personal things, without having to click or play "20 questions". If you haven't met yet and the conversation is just happening online, it may not be the most intimate, but it will certainly tell itself beyond the dry details of "how old" and "where it works." Rather, talk to you about his future dreams, tell you something intimate about the past, or maybe tell an anecdote about a friend or family member. And yes - for a guy it's called opening up. To really open up.
It's just obvious he wants to
Unpleasant to say, but men are far less complex than women in this section. They do not sit in groups and analyze every comma in the message you sent them. If they are into the matter - they will see it, or if not - you probably won't hear from them. There is not too much subtext, not too much hint, and there is no point digging with the companies. What you see is what you get. Which means if there is doubt - then there is no doubt. If you're not sure he's in your section, then probably it's true - he's not in your section. True, we are different from each other, and some guys are less clear, or more shy than others, and even then - they will find their way to show that they are. If you find yourself agonizing in the thought: "Does he deserve it or is he not in my section?" More than a week, the answer is - no. He's not in the section and it's time to move on to the next guy. Don't worry, an app like OkCupid is full of guys who are looking for a meaningful relationship, and didn't come to play.
