Expectation Coordination, A Training Program That Suits Everyone And Mostly Paragon: Tips For Families Who Want To Do Sports Together
"Let everyone reach their peak in front of themselves." The Samuel family
Sports are important to the mind and body, and physical fitness a few times a week is a must - this is something everyone already knows, and some of us are into. But sports are also a great way to formulate a fun, fun family and a healthy way too.
"Families who choose to exercise together increase the likelihood that their children will continue and do sports independently, and in addition, strengthen their sense of belonging and family cohesion," explains Natalie Tamam, psychologist at adidas Runners Tel Aviv. "Parental support for their children is one of the strongest and most influential support for children's participation in physical activity, and when parents take part in the performance and set a personal example - children's persistence will be even greater."
To achieve the most positive sports-family experience, it is important to set common goals. Tamam: "Parental support is not always seen as a positive thing. When the child interprets parental behavior as a way of controlling rather than a way of support, it can hurt willingness and persistence to exercise.
"Therefore, when choosing to do family physical activity, it is important for each family member to express their desires and needs regarding the activity, to be heard and taken into account. It is also important that everyone in the group feels loved, significant and belonging. The sense of belonging is at the root of motivation, and when exercising properly with Family, this is the easiest need.
"When each of the participants is given some autonomy, and yet they choose common goals that suit everyone and maintain a sense of belonging to the group, family coaching becomes a place of enjoyment, fulfillment, success and strengthening of family ties."
Another way to make family time enjoyable is to create a separation between the daily routine and family activity time. "Coaching is supposed to be fun and experiential, so it is worthwhile to leave what happens in everyday life out of training, to get free of the anger and judgment that can be created between parents and children," Tamam emphasizes. "For example, in cases of tapering or eliminating training, try to understand the cause and not make the accusations. In the end, we strive to make training a supportive, challenging and demanding system - but not at the expense of strengthening the family unit, interpersonal relationships, cohesion and belonging.
"It is also important to coordinate expectations. If the goal is competitive - for example, participating in a race together, it is important to prepare an organized training program that is agreed upon by all members of the family. If there is a gap between the levels, it is important to make line alignment and begin training to match the low levels until they reach a similar level. All the family members. A feeling of lack of success over time, and a feeling that there are differences in levels in the family group, will lead to despair for the weaker in the group. "
The Samuel family
Keren, an employee of Samsung Israel, and Lenmarud, a civil servant, from Even Judah, have three children: Idan (17 and a half), Omar (14 and a half) and Gal (8 and a half) - and they all run together. "We are basically sports people," Keren says. "Nimrod Marathonist and I were a volleyball player and from an early age spent in gyms and running. As a couple, we made sure to keep basic codes of times, otherwise it wouldn't work, so we divided the week by who's doing the training and when, and during that we added joint runs. In addition to the joint runs, the little one has been running since the age of 6 in all the local races, and the big one is doing CrossFit and running with my husband.
"In our family, the whole house is around sports. It's very important to us, including financial expenses for sports clothing and nutrition. Everyone knows we can't do without sports, even on holidays. The kids grew up in it, they got used to the food tasting better when doing sports, and the shower was more fun After exercise.
"The sport also brings us very close. For example, when I go out on my own with one of the kids, we start warming up and talking. It's a different connection, no consents, no distractions, it's just us. Plus, there is this kind of quiet when you run together and look around the landscape And then there's an intimate, close-knit conversation. My oldest child is adolescent, and it's not an easy age. When he runs with his dad, for example, they have a talk about the military or all sorts of issues that don't exist anywhere else. And to hear things from Dad. "
What happens in a situation where there is tension or anger at home?
"Even then, we are still running. Beginning a little nervous, and quietly completing sometime. The sport helps bridge those gaps. We do not force family sports. The children have life and friends, but they are the ones who want to persevere and these are very fun moments."
What is your tip for families who want to do sports together?
"Together, it's easier to train. Everyone has to be at their own pace, it's important to have fun and not suffer, to enjoy it and let everyone reach their peak in front of themselves."
The Loco family
"The sport really captures the family." The Loco family
Liel, a doctoral student at the Technion, and Daniel, who work for GE healthcare, who live in Haifa, have two children: Harel (7) and Eden (4), and they all work together at CrossFit. "My husband and I are in one group, Harel in the children's group, Eden is practicing acrobatics, and when we bring her to CrossFit she mimics us from the sidelines," laughs Liel. "So it turns out that on Sundays and Wednesdays, the three of us practice together in the same hall, and on Tuesdays we practice at pretty overlapping hours. Sometimes we allow Harel to do warm-ups with us, and if his coach approves, he joins us for training.
"At home, there is an atmosphere of fitness and health, and when possible we do additional workouts. We have a barbell at home, a pit bull and a mattress.
"The sport is very much a bond between us, capturing the family. We look at each other and succeed together, which adds to our fitness experience. We don't have any basic rules at home, everyone goes because they want to. We change the negative emotion into a positive feeling, and when you return home, there is quite a lot that someone cannot get to workout, and it does not affect the rest of the family, change combinations, have a mutual understanding. Everyone knows how important it is to the other family member, and at this point they always find A way to compromise.
"I also feel it has improved my relationship with my 7-year-old son, because it has given us a common denominator and it's our quality time with him. We pat him on the shoulder and he feels empowered, and then he opens up more. Wouldn't have done that before. We now have a common language. "
"Over the years, we tried many gyms, and it didn't really connect. We both couldn't keep up, and when we heard about CrossFit, I first sent Daniel a try. He became addicted, and I became addicted to it. It's not just fitness, it becomes a community of people. My brother and wife At CrossFit, too, so it really became something of an extended family thing. "
Tips for Families Who Want to Practice Together?
"It's important to start slowly. Too high an unreachable expectation or goal will not solve all the problems at home, but sport is definitely an amazing starting point for improving relationships."