The girls' suicide: The drama didn't end there

The suicide of two young women shook us all, but while for us the saga ended at the funeral, a whole scene seemed to come later and disappeared. Exposed interview with Walla Judaism tells parents how to prevent the next case in their children

'Bens did not deteriorate into drugs' (Photo: ShutterStock)

Smokers, cigarettes, marijuana (Photo: ShutterStock)

The tragic suicide of the late Hannah Solish and Sarah Kapelman who jumped to the roof of a building in the Givat Shaul neighborhood of Jerusalem shocked the state. The young women who stayed in their grandmother's house in Jerusalem for the last few days left a suicide note. Soon after they passed away and the story seemed to be sealed, the drama began. Behind the scenes and the story continued to roll in. Haya Pollak, chair of the HMA organization in the streets handling end-of-life youth, told a conversation with Walla! Judaism about the drama that continued after the funeral.

"For a whole day I didn't close my eyes," says Folk. "Shortly after learning of the tragic and so sad suicide we received at the organization's emergency center, we reported two more girls each individually seeking suicide. We immediately began vigorous action to try to reach them and at the same time convey messages through friends and friends that would not take this terrible step. That every second matters. "

"I didn't get my exit from the high school teacher's closet"

Two and two more

HMA organization That Folk heads his children and girls who run away or are thrown out of their homes and are in the streets. The report to the organization's emergency center on the first girl to commit suicide came shortly after the tragic suicide of two girls in Jerusalem became known. "I called the girl's cellphone and asked to meet with her," Folk describes the journey she went through, "after a campaign of persuasion she agreed. On the way to the meeting, I called her again to make sure everything was fine. We sat in the public garden and talked in the rain. I convinced her to leave the despairing side and blessed us.

"On the way home, I received a message from the emergency center that there were reports of another girl wanting to commit suicide. Along with amazingly recruited Moriah station police, we searched for the girl. As soon as it became clear that she was in another station area, they conveyed the subject to their treatment. We located the girl, and she was transferred to welfare agencies. That's how I found myself dealing with saving lives for a whole day without resting for a moment. "

Sixteen foster families

HMA organization Established following Ms. Haya Polk's personal experience, as a young girl she was forced to leave the home where she grew up. At age 14, she slept on the lawn at the Sacher Garden in Jerusalem. "My mother is hurt by hostilities that couldn't raise me," says Haya Polk, "From the age of 4, I went to 16 foster families. You can only imagine a first-grade girl who gets up in the morning taking the sandwich and is also asked to take the bag because today In the evening she moves to another family. Like this again, and again and again. Nobody bothered to think who it was 'animal' and what was going through her mind when she was once again thrown from the house she hoped to stay. "

The animal traumas were managed to take advantage of the dangers of the street: "I was there when my mother collapsed and treated her. I was shocked to see girls losing control over drug and alcohol consumption. As a young girl there were days when I didn't eat or take a shower but I promised myself I wouldn't be like them. Prevented me from touching drugs. "

Asked what she was telling the girl who was in danger of suicide from a live respondent that she was telling to build her personal story and how she was able to recover. She describes the day she boarded a bus as an IDF soldier and met a former high school teacher who scoffed at her future. "I'm like you because of that," she told her.

Over the years, an animal came close to Judaism, married a Chabad devotee, started a family and is now the mother of six children. They will rebuke me. "To the girls I meet and think they can no longer, I say that if I committed suicide, , Says a choked animal, "I would give in. Everyone would cry two days and the next day forget me. But I showed everyone that, despite everything, I succeeded and made progress. To each of the girls who planned to commit suicide, I said: Prove to everyone that you do not give in, that you can succeed despite what they said. If you die tomorrow or tomorrow, forget about you. Living is forever. "

Home food is everything

And what do parents say who are scared when the kids ask questions?

The answer, surprisingly, starts with food. "First of all, you will make home food. Soup and stews. This psychologist transmits that 'here is a safe place.' After a house meal, do not click. Let the boy or girl talk about what is difficult for them. The boys and girls today know everything. There is nothing to hide. If they have questions about death, the conversation must be open, not resentful, non-judgmental, and angry.

"You have to know how to listen correctly, not to say the right thing. Don't ask guiding questions because in this specific case ideas can be put in for children. A question about suicide is not true because maybe the child did not even think about committing suicide but wondering about the meaning of life for example, so open questions are a priority "The most important thing is to have a conversation where the child will talk about everything and the parent will listen, not talk. If you listen, you will hear what their problems are. If you listen correctly, they can tell you what they need from you."

Even before the questions arrive and before the end comes, the most important message of an animal is: "Give the children responsibility. Even if they don't fit, even if you feel they are not worth it. A child is always worth it. Rude, rebellious, criminal and what not Everybody's worth it, a kid who can't handle responsibility, can't handle life, even a responsibility like smearing cheese on a sandwich in the morning. When a child realizes that he trusts he thinks' I have a world here, I have a character, people see me, I Not transparent, 'It's very, very significant.'