As part of the daily page study, parents encountered a difficult problem. "" I knew that the Gemara was talking about everything, but suddenly every day there was an issue concerning sexuality, "says a researcher.

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You drive in the family car and hear a lesson on the daily page, with the kids in the back seats. And then all of a sudden the lecturer comes up with an issue related to night colds, wolfs, nods or women's baptisms - what will you do? This is the situation facing Dr. Michal Prince this week, a religious women's sexuality researcher and a fresh daily learner.

"My reaction pretty much surprised me," says Prince, "with a simple instinct I lowered the volume, like lowering when hearing news from the kids and knowing about obscene acts or sexual abuse. Then I stopped and asked myself why I was lowering, this is not a Gemara lesson. If you can talk about it in the beit midrash, why can't this topic be present with us in the car? So I stepped back, but I nevertheless glanced to see who was awake and heard the lesson. One was with a headset, and the two in the back seat slept so no conversation arose around it. " .

Prince, founder and director of the Yahel Center and mentoring couples for relationships, was surprised to find out how sexuality is present in daily learning: "I knew that Gemara was talking about everything, but suddenly as I began to learn Gemara from page two, day after day, it became more present. What an issue about sexuality and the woman's body, and sometimes even an explanation of another subject through the woman's organs, I think there is a real opportunity for me to discuss these issues with my children. Each issue is a platform for discourse, and it doesn't matter if they meet it in a family Gemara class, On television, in a sexual education class, or even on the street. Don't be there for them, and there's no issue I can hide from them, because if it doesn't come from me, it will come from somewhere else. "

A study tour of Mikvah women

Prince is not alone. Those who have had to deal face-to-face with sexual issues for children are creators of "hatred," an illustrated sub-parenting project for parents and children - whose sixth volume, the Blessing of Blessings, will soon be published - and intended for family study with particularly young children, forcing writers to ask How children of three, five and seven teach themselves about the night, night, baptism and baptism of women, issues that older learners also find difficult to deal with.

Illustration: Hananal Turgeman

"Parent-child experiential learning can be a significant basis for discourse and connection," explains Hananal Turgman, the artist behind the illustrated Mishnahs, "and because learning is aimed at a wide range of children, it is important for the books to suit everyone, and when we come to Mishnayim that need greater sensitivity, we Trying to provide a good platform for parent and child discourse, as a painter, I need to decide what to put forward and what moment I emphasize, and more often than not I choose to enrich the commentary in another experiential or even interpretative aspect of sexuality and connection to the body. The name of the occupation was indirect, while in the mask of blessings we were alive More direct response because the mask deals directly with the various body impurities. "

Turgeman, along with the commentators of the commentary, Rabbis Gross and Mechta, chose to focus on the baptism of women and to illuminate it in a positive light, precisely because there is sometimes a negative stigma attached to it. "At first, I thought of painting a woman who goes to the mikvah and prepares for it," Torgman explains, "in such a way that it doesn't look foreign and so that every parent can choose whether to relate to it and in whatever form, but after re-thinking with my wife, we chose to present the mikvah itself as a pleasant and inviting place as Any good spa with the purpose of pampering your body and allowing you to reconnect, is important for us to present the hope of women because most girls are not exposed to it before the canopy, and not all communities practice a "mikveh party." I believe we give a general basis for parenting discourse. To the children so that things go the way that suits each family. "

Me, you and Kerry tonight

Even on the subject of Kerry tonight, the "drinks" are treated delicately, and the words "Kerry owner" mentioned in the fat are interpreted in a way that leaves room for the parent's choice: "Kerry owner - who left a sperm layer." Dr. Prince sees engaging in sexuality through parental and parenting a good opportunity to flood the subject: "We think our children ask us what content to consume, but the truth is that content is presented to them 'in the front' and in the most intimate way possible, and the right question is whether we Understand his responsibilities and are there to give our look, perhaps raise a question mark and offer a critical look, if need be.

"The big advantage of exposure to sexuality from secondary or Gemara is that this is how the child learns that our religious-Torah world, from which we are mammals, also speaks and deals with these issues, and we cannot ignore it. And this is an opportunity to deal together. And if my daughter tells me she listened to a lesson Gemara and she wants to ask me about Kerry Lila, I felt it was a success. Because she also studied Gemara and brought this subject to me, which means she sees me as a source of knowledge and someone to talk to on intimate topics. "

What is the right way to talk about sexuality with children?

"There is no such thing as 'right' and 'wrong' in this context. Every child and its maturity. Our role as parents is to identify where the child is and to make child sexuality accessible in their own language. I believe such discourse starts from scratch, and sees everything Mention of sexuality as an opportunity for discourse, and also a statement that the children heard in transportation is, for me, an opportunity for discourse, in their own language. "