Don't be confused: This is how you should dress on the first date

If you meet in the app, the first date is often the element on which something will fall, and although it is impossible to control reality, there are things that are definitely possible and desirable to date

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The first date after talking on the app for a few days is significant. We have also heard of bad first dates that have become great relationships, but between us, more often than not, a bad first date has eliminated the option to continue. So it is true that there are things that cannot be controlled, but precisely because of that, why not try and correct the mistakes that are under our control? Here are some rules that, if you stick to them, will help you avoid unnecessary mistakes.

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There are some things that can be considered as a consensus, for example, you might think that no one should hear the recommendation: "Please take a shower and comb before the first date," right? So let us tell you that you are wrong. Cases have happened. So for anyone who doesn't know it alone, please - don't come unpeeled and don't smell good for a date. Or anywhere. Thanks.

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What men should wear for a first date
Plus, women’s favorite attire on a man is Casual Plus. Don't get on the first date with a girl you just met for the first time in skinny, moccasins, and a diamond-studded dragonfly. And on the other hand, don't come with finger flip-flops or jellyfish sandals, or for heaven's sake, Root or Crocs sandals and a course-ending shirt. When we say casual plus we mean jeans, a sensible shirt, and sneakers, and maybe a jacket. That's all we ask for on the first date.

What women should wear for a first date
Women, too, are not innocent of dress mistakes, and because we have more options, our margin of error is also greater - wild exaggerations towards the elegant and overly invested, for example, are the exclusive property of women. Evening dresses as if you are at least the bride's sister, sequins, exaggerated heels, babyliss and too much makeup are just some of the mistakes women make on the first date. Oddly enough, the law here is gender neutral - men too prefer casual wear on the first date. Not a workout sweatshirt, but a simple, flattering item paired with jeans and flat shoes will do the job, plus a bit of makeup. In the case of the first date and styling - all adds up to the detriment.

Most important is not to exaggerate (Photo: Shatterstock)

Couple during a date (Photo: ShutterStock)

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energy
Positive, of course. After all, a date or not, we all want to enjoy our evening, whether it lasts for two hours and leads to a sequel, or lasts half an hour and leads to the next person on the app. It's important to come with a good, positive energy to the meeting - even if you know it's not your style from the first moment, there's no reason to sit in a sour face. Being nice and smiling doesn't cost you anything, but will improve the feeling you get out of the date, without changing the end result.

phone
One of the things that bothers people on the first date is that their date is too much on the phone - it's considered a show of disrespect and disinterest, and makes the other side feel unwanted. So please, when you're on a date, put your phone aside, and look at each other instead of the Instagram torch. In general, the phone should not be on the table unless it is upside down. This is a basic first date politeness.

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Good conversation is critical to getting to know one another. Which means it has to be mutual. Try to avoid aggressive investigations as much as possible - we want the conversation to be flowing and pleasant, and try to avoid awkward moments as much as possible. When we are embarrassed we tend to talk too much, which interrupts synchronization and produces strange moments of embarrassment. The secret is not to talk too much in the first place, but to focus more on listening to each other. When someone listens attentively, the other party feels comfortable talking, creating an opportunity to ask interesting questions, and so on.

Alcohol
The secret here is balance. A glass or two of wine or beer can be an effective catalyst for release and relaxation. More than that can already destroy everything. Of course, this depends on the individual capacity of each one, but for most people the red line is after two glasses. Too much alcohol can end in two forms: the first, the over-freedom you will later regret, and the second - a bad physical feeling. No one wants to rely on the first date toilet.

TMI
Familiar with the phrase Too Much Information? So it is. Openness is important, but on the first date it is critical to know when to stretch the border. No one wants to hear about the difficult relationship you have with your father, the broken heart from a previous relationship, or the count of your sexual partners. And having said that, don't lie either, because if you stay together, even for a short period, these things have a tendency to go out into the air, and it's a shame. If you are asked a question you are not comfortable answering, it is perfectly legitimate to simply say "I prefer not to go into it right now". Total Thou.

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Bad date (Photo: shutterstock, ShutterStock)

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Pick up from home
Collecting from home is considered a nice gesture in the past, but nowadays, and especially since people meet without much prior acquaintance through the app, the norm is to meet at the cafe or bar you chose to sit in. If you still want to be gentlemen, it is advisable to replace the pickup with dispersion - you have sat for a few hours, you already know a little, and the offer to take her home can also imply finding grace and interest in another date without having to talk about it directly.

Determine the next date
If you like each other, you don't have to say it directly. There is something nice about keeping a little mystery and waiting for the phone, even if it only lasts a day. Also, do not pre-determine who will call whom or who will call whom and when. This is unnecessary and creates an expectation that if you do not meet it, you will defeat the other side. If you wake up the next morning and want to meet again - contact us. And yes, it is still customary for the man to call, although it is unclear why.

payment
Along with the various advances in gender, more and more women and men have stopped identifying in recent years with the format in which the man is supposed to pay for the woman on the first date, no matter what. Because you know what? it matters. No matter how familiar you are, no matter how much everyone earns, no matter what you order, and in general - nobody owes anything to anyone at this point. If he offers, it's a nice courting act, and of course you're invited to let him and insist on paying him next time. If not, that's fine - half of that is the norm right now, and it's fair and logical.

kiss
At the end of the date, depending on your mood, a kiss can be a pleasant and close moment. However, it is very important to be sensitive and not to cross borders. It's also okay to end a date with a friendly hug, and it certainly doesn't mean anything, here or here - after all, the moment you meet - your PZM includes a beer session and nothing more - very likely if you prefer to wait two more days until the first liquid is changed.